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by dbms
Mon Nov 21, 2005 4:25 am
Forum: coping
Topic: Marmite, fish....
Replies: 11
Views: 376

Ok, I'll bite. What on earth is marmite? For a poor boy from Canada it sounds like luggage. On the serious side I have heard that certain foods and herbs can address mild depression. Did try St John's Wort for a while but really didn't notice any effect that I can talk about. I've read as well that ...
by dbms
Thu Nov 17, 2005 3:13 am
Forum: coping
Topic: my friend needs quiet si coping skills
Replies: 7
Views: 189

Writing, reading, music, crossword puzzles are all immediate distractions that can help. Of course there is freezing you tools or otherwise making them hard to get at. While I don't do it often I have used safer alterntives rubber band, wasabi to deflect the urge long enough to have the desire to cu...
by dbms
Thu Nov 17, 2005 3:00 am
Forum: coping
Topic: Parents and SI
Replies: 9
Views: 387

I agree just letting them find out by seeing your arms would be pretty alarming. That method may not be fair to you or to them. I would expect that this a time you would most like thier acceptance, support and help so I would bring them along gently. Sitting them down and explaining what it is you w...
by dbms
Thu Nov 17, 2005 2:51 am
Forum: coping
Topic: anyone do this?...hiding crying?
Replies: 31
Views: 1630

When I was young (early teens) I made a decision that the world and people in would not make me cry. Up untill then I was always in tears over something so don't cry normally. Mayby a little moist in the eye for a sad movie, birth of my children. But I hide that. I really don't want people pestering...
by dbms
Sun Nov 13, 2005 4:25 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: how to cope with thoughts
Replies: 6
Views: 373

I either write and/or use music (loud) it tends to block out the images /thoughts. Doesn't work all the time but it can help. When it is really overwhelming I roll up in a quilt put on my favorite album and lie quietly. Either I fall asleep or they pass. Sorry your thoughts are troubling you. It can...
by dbms
Fri Nov 11, 2005 2:41 am
Forum: coping
Topic: Suz's safe space
Replies: 2
Views: 57

It looks very comfortable. Good for you and thanks for sharing. Take care.
by dbms
Wed Nov 09, 2005 11:56 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: Completely Freaking Out
Replies: 4
Views: 82

I agree with Alethea. Perhaps are you concerned because its a subject that is too close to you. If you do not want to give away too much then I would stick to more general information. You most likely have a lot to bring to the topic without sharing too much about yourself. After all you know SI fro...
by dbms
Sat Nov 05, 2005 8:20 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: wants vs. shoulds
Replies: 18
Views: 1097

Poya I think it's a wonderful idea. All to often we let the things we must do overshadow the things we need. Too much work and not enough enjoyment makes it a pretty shouldy day. (sorry i couldn't resist). Anyway Today I want to: write a bit of poetry get some rest play with my sons Today I should: ...
by dbms
Sat Nov 05, 2005 4:08 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: Hello, I'm new
Replies: 4
Views: 90

Hi and welcome to bus. Don't have any advice on stopping. I'm in the same boat I'd like to not SI but I am afraid to give it up. I had about a year free then gave in to an urge. However, when I look after myself, sleep, eat keep from isolating myself the desire diminishes. I have therapist who has h...
by dbms
Sat Nov 05, 2005 12:23 am
Forum: coping
Topic: Su doku
Replies: 20
Views: 1170

what is a so doku?
by dbms
Fri Nov 04, 2005 1:01 am
Forum: coping
Topic: Shutting Myself Out (slight trig)
Replies: 4
Views: 163

For me it's is one of my first steps toward depression. I tend to reduce my contact with other people, have difficulty laughing, become introspective, etc... It becomes an effort to deal with others and I find it easier to be by myself. Is there anything that you can think of that has happened to ca...
by dbms
Fri Oct 28, 2005 3:05 am
Forum: coping
Topic: when people make jokes...
Replies: 20
Views: 1073

Jokes make me uncomfortable. Mostly because they hit so close to home. I am afraid my reaction may give something away. You know it's sort of like being in church. I always thought the minister was speaking about or to to me. Not that he wouldn't have had good reason to as I usually was the one leav...
by dbms
Tue Oct 25, 2005 5:32 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: Do these boards help or trigger?
Replies: 26
Views: 861

Good for you. Sounds like you have a good plan that will work for you. I do hope to see you on the board from time to to time but understand completely that sometimes it is too much. Glad your feeling well.
by dbms
Tue Oct 25, 2005 4:49 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: Who do you talk to about your SI?
Replies: 44
Views: 1851

P. I'm hoping the same thing for bus as well. I can openly discuss what's happening with me and get some fairly objective thoughts in response. It certainly helps that I know people here can relate.

Sorry about the g/f. That must have hurt.
by dbms
Tue Oct 25, 2005 1:27 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: Who do you talk to about your SI?
Replies: 44
Views: 1851

I talk to my therapist and the folks on bus. Other than that no-one until I joined here. One, there are few (if any) people I know who would understand. Two, I don't trust people enough not to talk. My wife knows that I have SI'd in the past but talking to her just upsets her terribly and then I hav...
by dbms
Sat Oct 22, 2005 1:58 am
Forum: coping
Topic: hypnotherapy? has anyone tried it?
Replies: 10
Views: 375

I've heard of it it as an avenue. Not sure I'm ready to let go enough to trust it.
by dbms
Sat Oct 22, 2005 1:42 am
Forum: coping
Topic: Coping after therapy sessions
Replies: 3
Views: 127

I make every effort to have my sessions late in the evening. That way I can sleep if it was too much. If it was a good session I have the energy to stay up. Now I have to wonder if my and my therapist's defintion of a good session are even remotely close. I'll have to ask her next time I see her.
by dbms
Thu Oct 20, 2005 3:05 am
Forum: coping
Topic: 5 months
Replies: 5
Views: 168

Congratulations. It's a wonderful achievement and your positive comments are contagious. Thanks for letting us share your experince. Cheers.
by dbms
Tue Oct 18, 2005 10:59 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: Place To Wish
Replies: 963
Views: 53564

I wish that I could be at peace with myself for just five minutes.
by dbms
Tue Oct 18, 2005 1:26 am
Forum: coping
Topic: Right now I feel...
Replies: 2081
Views: 75273

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