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Just wondering if anyone else struggles with both. Deliberate SI I am getting a handle on. By this, I mean mostly cutting; which requires a degree of planning/prep even when it is impulsive. Right? I mean you can't gut-respond to a situation by cutting unless there's something just sitting there. Bu...

I think.... that it has to do with safe and familiar. Sometimes when you live a certain way for so long, that feels like normal/baseline. And so even though it is sadder or harder or less healthy than today, there is still some sort of nostalgia to the familiarity. I'm finding that becoming healthie...

My comp. isn't showing posts past Saturday. My watched threads show that several have posts, but I am unable to view anything new. Is this common or just my computer?

I think that what you are doing is beautiful. Things that hurt: - Pretending like there wasn't a problem - Using embarassment/shaming to try to stop the problem - Showing disgust - Using counseling as a threat Things that would have helped: - Unconditional love - Encouraging me to go to counseling -...

YES!!!!!!!!!!! I do not know what I would do without music. I have music for about every mood. Also my radio stations' music helps me to remember how much God loves me/truth and that keeps me grounded.

I guess they cut it out b/c of space!?! and maybe for their "image" too. Cool that you bought it, Jessica! :) I am semisomewhatnotreallyfamous! haa!!!! Anyway, here's the full: Hello, I am a teacher who has struggled with self-injury for almost ten years. I can understand parts of your article, but ...

I posted this in the other reader's digest thread too -but they published (part of) my letter in the latest RD - it's the 2nd one.

I would try to start an assignment the day it was assigned. Then I'd work on it maybe 15-30 minutes each day. I'd finish it way before it was due, so I never had to stress out over meeting a last minute deadline. Also, if something came up early with friends, etc., it was okay because I still had ti...

How did it go?

Name: ebmcs Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Yes If so what is your motivation: Jesus... no more scars... being healthier... not having that as an obstacle in relationships Coping skills that work the least: Just sitting it out Safe places you can go: The Smiths.... Granny's.... Identi...

- It's getting close to spring and I don't want to be uncomfortable in spring clothes any more than I already will be

- I really want to stop, and I've almost made it a month

- I want to be free..... and find healthier coping mechs

i am...

sleepy
fighting
exhausted
growing stronger

i am not...

perfect

i feel...

a little lost

i want...

peace

i need...

love

i have...

God
some friends
some family

i love...

the mountains
sunshine
music
driving
church

i hate...

anger
hatred
negativity

*** warning - SI/ED I am proud of myself because I made it through an almost 4 hour long urge!!!! I said, "I'm going to play some worship songs and then if I still feel like it, okay." So I washed dishes, still felt bad, played for almost an hour, still felt bad.... but decided I'd keep putting it o...

Just wanted to let you know I read.... I can relate to that feeling sometimes. But I've found that if I keep writing down the positive things and the happy things, eventually one day down the road I can feel the joy from them all ??? if that makes sense, as I look back on all of the good things that...

I posted a thread on this about 4 hours after yours - didn'tsee yours first!!!! My reaction was similar and I actually sent a letter too!

I included some excerpts from their article so thought I'd link here

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why is it so hard to cry

how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? ---I will feel more relaxed and less tense. The situation won't actually change. My feelings will. what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation? ---Bring - release of tension. Take away - feelin...

Hi, I can totally understand and relate. I did something very similar. For whatever reason, it is a coping mechanism that we have in times of stress (ie, starting college and everything that goes with that). I finally got up the nerve to go to counseling during my senior year in college. Wow, I am s...

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