bus

glad you made it through =)

how do you work through learning other new things?

what sorts of things could you do so that you could learn catcher safely?

i'd not suggest giving a lot of detail if you choose to not play catcher.

Hurt, angry, confused, sad, like things are beyond my control and there is nothing I can do to change the situation --sometimes we cannot change the actual situation. what could you do to accept it? emotions can feel incredibly overpowering. like if they're not stopped then something terrible will h...

If the stressor is my "addiction," then I am trapped and can't truly avoid it. --not true =) people overcome addictions all the time. --slipping sets you back in terms of urges. giving in does make it more difficult the next while. which i find can be helpful in terms of reminding myself why to *not...

flowers
the sound of traffic through the window

at the start of this thread i thought maybe it'd become a place where people could learn to challenge false beliefs they have about themselves (whether or not those beliefs seem completely true) quite a few of the replies are very negative. i'm wondering if this could be changed & moved back into be...

what sorts of things have you found helpful to put in your recovery notebook, Maria?

--therapist realizing you feel like utter shit & being gentle
--getting a nice pm from someone you've not heard from in forever

will reply in the next couple days. feel free to remind me if i forget.

I took it out on myself rather than be committed
--those aren't the only two options... granted it's not always wise to tell everyone everything. nor is it wise to keep everything to oneself. like you pointed out earlier though it's true that ultimately it's up to you to keep yourself safe.

glad you found it helpful =) personally i like really cheesy books filled with quotes & such =) cheesy often isn't a bad thing

try a search for 'emergency box' 'coping box' 'box' there are a lot of threads about that...
good luck

"So I had to get rid of the emotional pain the only way I knew how" "I just have to realize I'm the only one that can stop me. ......know what to do but I have a hard time putting it into action. " those contradict each other a bit. what could you do to get your thoughts towards the latter rather th...

--finally getting a paper written
--brother
--(evil therapist)
--rain
--fuzzy blankets
--corny tv shows
--nice emails
--fuzzy jammies

--cats
--not having to wait too long for a bus
--wearing clothes i feel good in

a number of variations on the themes of "chin up, jog on", "snap out of it", "get over yourself" and "ffs,stfu". --what about mentioning beforehand 'please don't tell me "chin up..." i'm hurting & am wanting heard. i know it's not the end of the world... i'm working through things... i do want heard...

It will let everyone know I hurt. It'll let *him* know I hurt. --how else could you let people know that? si might work to get attention & validation.... it's not the only way to do that though. It will stop me feeling so helpless, because I will have done *something*. --like you pointed out in your...

--cats
--acupuncture
--my brother
--rain

*nods* so long as you have other reasons to not si... maybe just notice that... you're going through what you're going through. she went through what she went through. we all have things to work through. life is tough. i dunno that i'd call it a 'silly' thing. seeing others suffer & hurt sometimes c...

--cats being so forgiving
--pop