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I usually use a mirror or any other kind of reflective surface. When I'm feeling unsafe, it helps me to know that I still exist. --glad you've found something that helps =) it's really hard to deal with feeling invisible. secret_smile & black_23... i'm wondering what sorts of things you're doing to ...

I had a therapy session yesterday. I have problems showing emotion besides SH. --what emotion is sh? from the rest of your post i'm guessing maybe you mean shame... just wondered though =) My new one I have been with 10 months. I know I am going to crack wide open with this one. I am so frightened w...

can definitely help to set things aside for awhile... & visualizing it can be a good aid to changing thoughts.

glad you're finding it useful =)

it'd depend on what they said... & context... & what the reasons behind it might be... etcetc eg. even wording can be less-than-tactful... like 'parasuicide' 'slicing' 'self-mutilation' 'acting out' how one might cut themselves... eg. making motions as if they were cutting their arm... 'why would su...

have you tried starting a thread on coping & ask for suggestions on how to deal with harsh comments? you're definitely not the only one that ever has trouble dealing with those... & really that's what the coping forum is here for

cause celeb by helen fielding

can you just notice the ache in your stomach... describe it... what does it feel like... can def relate to being afraid of crying. yet really... *now* if bad things happen because i cry it's also because i'm the one who adds those things in. fear of crying was because of things that happened in the ...

what if i reassure you that you don't have to be perfect? because you don't you know :) si-ing now would take me further from wanting to si less, further from caring for myself... --*definitely* veryvery right. read and comfort-eat. no healthy options --sounds rather like my justifications :tongue: ...

i can't assume everyone would be like me, and i know some people would rather be lied to than rejected --*nods* this is true. not everyone is like ourself. yet also.. i'm thinking there are midpoints between 'lied to' & 'rejected' eg. being nice to them. maybe even attempting to engage them in conve...

but when I see people like that (irl or on tv) I always hate them. which makes it so much more difficult to understand why anyone would like me,
--does it help you understand why those individuals would act that way? how would you treat someone like that?

i like books that i can get lost in. sometimes they're books that i can really relate to & other times not so much.
i like bill bryson (thanks to someone from the board) & nick hornby & tom robbins. i like more juvenile books like chronicles of narnia, 'the cat who' series, & trixie belden.

what's helped when you've felt afraid in the past? *nods* it makes sense that giving up a way of coping... especially one that a lot of us used for ages as a 'first-resort' is scary. what sorts of things could you do to lessen that feeling? what could you do to give you a sense of control or pride.....

--talking with classmates.
--feeling visible.
--having an instructor i feel comfortable with.
--being productive.
--getting to classes & staying through them even though it was the last thing i wanted to do this morning.

how i cope is a choice. & i can widen my choices by practicing different ways of coping.
coping healthfully may be more difficult than not; yet also helps me feel more human. more connected to myself & the world around me. it gives me a different way of looking at things.

you posted this in coping.... so :) how do you respond/deal when those things are said? why do you think your friends & mom say those thing? i can relate to feeling very badly when some of those things are said. other times though i can realize that the person saying it wasn't meaning it in a hurtfu...

call the specialist & hospital & ask what they'd suggest in terms of options. explain what you've been trying, what places you've contacted... say that you're looking for help & ask if they know of any therapist or such... explain that you're on medicaid. some places are willing to do sliding-scale,...

I had one of those days where all the little things go wrong. Nothing bad happened, but it was frustrating. Then tonight I didn't get the work done I'd planned on, but it's not due tomorrow, so it really isn't a problem. --how do you deal with feeling frustrated? often for me it is the 'small' stuff...

music
fast computers
getting cats weighed so wormbaby can be properly dewormed
ice cream when it's what you really want
rain

takes awhile to get replies at times =) one thing might be to start replying to other peoples posts... sometimes that's a good way of meeting others. also, most people don't mind getting pm's... those don't have to be based off any other post either... just a 'hi, i'm new & saw your name around the ...

take the place of in what sense? obviously nothing is going to be identical... sometimes it can help to have a sort of sense as to why you're wanting to cut & then tailor a response based on that... eg. if you're feeling sad then watch a sad movie, or do something soothing. if you're feeling angry t...