bus

what are you looking for in terms of stopping si?
what were your reasons for si?
maybe you could match up ways of coping with those?

have you tried not drinking coffee & not napping so maybe you can sleep at night?

sometimes it seems people are looking for something that instantly & completely takes away an emotion so much as si. i think one thing to realize is that people si for a reason. there's no 'blow bubbles & all emotions will stop yet you'll not be hurting yourself' type way of coping. a part of coping...

how are you defining "cope" & "helps me cope?"

the shopaholic series.
stupid & contagious.

--cats
--brother
--feeling productive
--talking with people who take the time to listen & attempt to understand

--music --corny movies that end happily regardless of how many times you watch them :roll: --cooking & having it come out well --finding a song that you like but didn't know the name or artist --calling someone you'd not talked with for ages & were feeling badly about it --finally shaving legs & bei...

music

--nice landlords/neighbors
--rain
--stupid movies
--fuzzy blankets
--coffee
--cats

i have the most inspiering book ever: Advice from the heart, by Dalai Lama... (i'm not buddist, but this one's written for all other people too... loads of good stuff, even a whole chapter for the nonreligious... ) --have you read "the art of happiness" it's my favorite book by him so far :) "the c...

--dogs
--cats
--coffee
--sun
--grass
--music

--nice landlords/neighbors
--cats
--scrambled eggs & hashbrowns
--corny sitcoms

I don't care that these books were written for an audience much younger than me I like reading something where I don't have to think too much. --yes!! I fully believe that books & movies & music should either entertain me or teach me. if they're boring or such why bother.. (well except for schoolboo...

Hi Maria,
Didn't get to catch you online today so thought I'd say hi here =)

A Yellow Raft in Blue Water by Michael Dorris

--compassionate emails
--being invited to stuff
--productiveness
--having someone visit with you & it's a friendly-type chat yet serious enough to not be 'flaky'

--plan out how to decorate.... --make it a positive thing... new place... new start... notice the cool things around the neighborhood or about the new place... --make one place a comfortable lil nest. pile up blankets or a comfy chair... make it just right for reading or listening to music or snuggl...

being productive

*nods* people-watching is good. sometimes there are others who are people-watching.... & sometimes it's easier to start a conversation then.... offer to help. often there are 'little' things that can be done. helping pass around food, making sure the drinks stay cold... etc. compliment people (so lo...

--plans going better than expected
--doing something that really pleases people
--cheeseballs