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Do you use coping methods (healthy ones... ) in combination or just on their own? Usually in combination Name something that helps you to cope beginning with the letter 'A'. Ani Difranco Do you see coping ideas as ways to banish feelings/urges or as a way to process/deal with how you're feeling? bo...

I hope you managed to get through the urge and that posting here helped. It does sound like you need to accept your anxious feelings before you can work on them. If you feel ok enough to work on some of the things you are procrastinating about, that might help you to feel more accomplished or in con...

music
dancing stupidly
hugs
kittens
letters and messages from people i love
books that make me laugh
rainy days

*i wish that i could learn to love and embrace myself for who i am and stop trying to pick myself apart and create an image of who i WANT to be. *i also wish i had the motivation to kick old habits and not be so afraid of change. _________________ It might help if you write a list of things that yo...

i am... awake alive tired heavy i am not... here whole real i feel... sore empty lonely impatient angry i want... ? peace? to sleep forever? enthusiasm to do something i need... motivation release i have... somewhere to live my cat my friends i love... my cat my friends my clan people I shouldn't i ...

THe song that best explains how I feel today is Ani Difranco's superhero sleep walking through the all-nite drug store baptized in fluorescent light i found religion in the greeting card aisle now i know hallmark was right and every pop song on the radio is suddenly speaking to me art may imitate li...

Mallie, thankyou for replying, your comments are welcome. Sometimes it is hard to see things clearly from inside, for eg, I thought my 2 before posts were about completely dif urges till I looked at them from an outside perspective and saw similar themes. Atm, my close friends are in vict, I am in r...

what had happened just before? I woke up feeling su, wanting to si etc. what were you thinking and feeling? I had been thinking/dreaming/worrying about close friends, and my ex. About the damage I do to other people and how little I contribute. why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of so...

* how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? * what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation? * how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way? * if hurting ...

* how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? I will feel something, I will be real * what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation? Feeling something will help, it will temporarily make me feel better. But waht I really want is a hug and ...

HI,

just letting you know that I read, and am listening. I am sorry you feel unsafe.

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Gwylan, thankyou for giving me something to think about. I don't know what the answer is right now. A certain amount of anger helps me follow my rules, not just for si, but for getting up in the morning, working etc. Perhaps it is worth seeking other methods of control. I guess that is part of what ...

Gwylan, Thankyou for your response. You asked? Do you think being angry at yourself would help? Or would you feel worse? You can't change what has happened, only how you act in future. Will being angry with yourself positively affect your future choices? I broke my rules. I should feel angry/quilty-...

I'm sorry I don't know if this is a welcome comment, please ignore if you don't want to answer. It sounds like maybe the issues with your family are making you feel like you have no control over your life I was wondering, if you feel like you can't visit them less often, you could arrange to go late...

Um, so I gave in last night, and it was really bad. hasn't been that bad in a long time, and I feel like I had very little control. I am trying to be angry with myself because I broke my rules; I cut where it can be seen, not much and I realised and stopped, but that's a clear indication I have no c...

Hi deb,

I'm a recent subscriber to before/after, my usergroups page states that I am a member, but when I try to post I am told that only members with special posting privleges can. Just wondering if this is related and i should unsubsribe/resubscribe or if I am doing something wrong?

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