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Do you remember a time when you never SIed? I guess that is how I cope now. I try all sorts of things - there is a good list of coping strategies in the stickies on this board. Firstly, allow yourself to fail - you don't have to be perfect. Second, don't give up til you have tried every method (not ...

The public holiday was a good rest and although agility was cancelled I practised on the equipment with Tanis and he did well. Sunday's competition was fun but long and I got sunburnt. Tanis behaved well and I got to practice with him which was nice. Still planning my novel but its coming on Saw my ...

I've often thought about this - I want three children, but my bf wants two - maybe though I should first get engage and then married and then sort out my work and how that would change if I have kids and then I hsould have the first child before I start thinking about two more. A lot of it scares me...

I've done most of the things I wrote before, so here are some new ones: *public holiday on Tuesday (will do agility with Tanis then) *getting to a competition on Sunday (I hope I can) *writing a novel (nanowrimo 2005 in November) *seeing my bf (will come over tomorrow) *finishing the book I only sta...

I haven't baked in ages (I think it would burn cause of all the interruptions) but this post makes me want to. I also like baking cause when you have finished you have made something (which never lasts long though)

I think part of the problem about depression and SI is that many people don't have anything to look forward to, so I thought it might be nice to have a post where people could write down what they were looking forward to and when it should occur, then later you could say how it turned out. Here's wh...

Hey, sorry you are struggling. I also often want to be a kid again. I was thinking about it the other day. One of the most therapeutic things I did last year was to go to a park near my house and swing on the swings there. Another thing that is great is to grab a teddy bear and cuddle up under a big...

You basically put it together in a few words: you want to help your friend out. You can help her out in a number of ways - the greatest of which is just being her friend and being yourself around her. That means that you can discuss how you feel about things and talk about Christianity as well. The ...

Just wanted to thank people on this post for keeping their cool. It is obviously a sensitive issue (even the name of the post implies controversy) Please remain sensitive to everyone here - obviously people are struggling with issues and need to have their feelings heard. As long as you think before...

Well done on making it a month. I think its pretty normal to miss the SI although its a good idea to try to figure out exactly what it is you miss about it - the pain? the scars? or is it more the feelings you get from it? and so on... I still don't tell myself that I will never SI again. Its a choi...

Maybe use a travel journal - you could even get an interactive one where you get people you meet to write in it and they could put encouraging stuff in or just things about the places they like there. Try chat to your new friends a lot too. There should be a lot you could ask could you hardly know t...

I am - Bronwyn (just me, a normal person with normal needs and wants) I am not -superhuman -worthless or incapable I feel - incredibly tired - sad and a bit angry - slightly relieved I want - sleep - time to myself - a break - a hug - to be with my boyfriend and not be interrupted - not to feel tra...

Hi, its sounds like you are having a hard time. Often it is when you are around a lot of people that you can feel most lonely (they say that big cities often have the loneliest people) I know what you mean about people leaving you when you try to talk about cutting. They did the same with me. I thin...

Hi and welcome to the boards :moo: This forum has a lot of ideas for things you can do other than SIing and it would be worth looking around it. You can get a lot of support on here too. It is often a better idea to tell your bf that sometimes you battle to cope with your feelings and see how it goe...

Coping is accepting I'm not perfect and I don't know everything and yet still trying. It is hoping without realising it, allowing myself to feel for the briefest moment. Coping is carrying on without knowing why, but doing it nonetheless, coping is trying something different cause what I did before ...

I don't think SI is the best way to cope and that may be why people don't like to talk about it same as they don't talk so much about drug addicts or alcoholics. And yes there is fear involved. It is a very scary thing that someone cuts themselves (which is against human instinct) in order to cope. ...

One of the best ways not to feel "nuts" is to spend as much time doing normal things with people you consider "normal" as possible. You cannot feel nuts while you are reading a normal novel or eating and ice cream or going ice skating. The times when you feel nuts are when you are at a doctors, when...

It sounds a little like you are having to choose between your boyfriend and your SI. First decide which is worth more to you and why. You don't want to lose him and yet you don't want to stop the SI... so you really need to think about things. You are lying to your boyfriend and that is not good in ...

Hi, I have a slightly different take on the manipulative thing. My own boyfriend said if I continue to cut then it would ruin our relationship and I think he was right. He also said he might leave me. I know he loves me, but he needed to look after himself as well as me. It must be very hard for a g...

I don't think the idea is never to be affected by what other people say - if you did that then you would be a cold person and no one would matter to you. For me its about seeing things from the other persons point of view or at least making allowances for them. For example if someone were to shout a...