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by Maryel42
Sat Feb 22, 2014 4:55 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: before
Replies: 1
Views: 327

before

size=200] Before You Self-Harm [/size] write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself: how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? I might have more energy, I think I will be better able to forget my current thoughts. Having the pain will just feel good...
by Maryel42
Thu Feb 13, 2014 6:09 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: before
Replies: 4
Views: 434

Re: before

I was! Wasn't that lovely? That I ended up writing a really long email in the end, and sent it off to my t, and we talked about it some yesterday. I think that this week may still have struggles with si. not today. Last night I had a really awesome meeting with my son's teachers, and I feel all floa...
by Maryel42
Mon Feb 10, 2014 10:06 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: before
Replies: 4
Views: 434

Re: before

I want to say in reply, why.... although I know that you don't have the ultimate answer, and there may not even be one; why is it that the talking about it is never enough? I talk and talk and burn people out with the neverending talking. I can examine my thoughts and try to stop focusing on it and ...
by Maryel42
Mon Feb 10, 2014 4:14 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: Seeking to be seen in this world
Replies: 9
Views: 924

Re: Seeking to be seen in this world

Thank you! I slept pretty badly, but I did sleep! And that's half the battle right there! It's going to be a long day, I fear, but I'm starting it feeling fairly optimistic. That's a lot, starting a bit positive is so much nicer than starting it crying and shaking because I feel so crappy and sad an...
by Maryel42
Mon Feb 10, 2014 4:03 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: before
Replies: 4
Views: 434

before

Before You Self-Harm write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself: how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? I will feel calmer for a while and in control of my emotions. I'll stop feeling so urgy what will hurting myself bring to the situation? wh...
by Maryel42
Sun Feb 09, 2014 10:58 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: Seeking to be seen in this world
Replies: 9
Views: 924

Re: Seeking to be seen in this world

Just checking in, again, and needed to share this: After everything else in my life, all the ups and downs and sideways cartwheels that life has handed me... After being in high school, then college, after a metric ton of various therapies and counseling and relationships, jobs, marriage, kids, afte...
by Maryel42
Sun Feb 09, 2014 12:41 am
Forum: coping
Topic: Seeking to be seen in this world
Replies: 9
Views: 924

Re: Seeking to be seen in this world

trusting and talking to people can go up and down - get easier and harder - when circumstances change. the most important thing is not to let go of the connections or push people away when it's hard. if you haven't already, and if it's appropriate, you might let people know how/why/when things are ...
by Maryel42
Fri Jan 31, 2014 9:42 am
Forum: coping
Topic: Seeking to be seen in this world
Replies: 9
Views: 924

Seeking to be seen in this world

I'm a bit scared tonight and confused. I thought I was really getting things together but I'm not. I also am having big trouble trusting too much. I am coping. I don't think I'm doing it well. Questions and hugs.

Right now I need validation the most.
by Maryel42
Sun Nov 03, 2013 2:13 am
Forum: coping
Topic: I'm proud of myself today because...
Replies: 39
Views: 21753

Re: I'm proud of myself today because...

Today I didn't dissociate or try to rush in and placate when my ex got mad. I didn't close off. I did the best I could do, spent time with our kids, and left with a decent mindset. All the way home I wanted to cut. As soon as I started planning it out in my head, I thought that it was time to spend ...
by Maryel42
Sat Oct 29, 2011 4:46 am
Forum: coping
Topic: Things Left Unsaid *LA*
Replies: 1346
Views: 114236

Re: Things Left Unsaid *LA*

I wish you would understand what I'm trying to say. That I just can't get it out, because the words are choking in my throat. I wish you'd understand that what you think I'm going to say isn't what the secret is, and that what you think is meant as something to help is scaring me as much as anything...