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by herebedragons
Tue Aug 30, 2005 4:21 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before.
Replies: 9
Views: 312

Before.

(typing "before" always makes it sound to me like injuring myself is the next thing on my to do list. But that's just me. I'm pedantic and stuff.) how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? I don't think it will change much at all except that for the moment I won't want to hurt myse...
by herebedragons
Mon Aug 29, 2005 8:37 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: before
Replies: 2
Views: 59

What I really want to do right now is curl up in a ball and cry until the tears all run out and then no longer feel. (sorry this is coming a bit late) That actually sounds like a really good option. Maybe if you cried for a while you would exhaust yourself and be able to sleep as well as releasing ...
by herebedragons
Tue Aug 02, 2005 11:05 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: after input requested
Replies: 4
Views: 76

I find that writing or typing out everything I'm angry about helps sometimes. Typing is good because then I can delete it all and don't have to worry about anyone coming across a notebook full or my rants.
by herebedragons
Wed Jul 27, 2005 5:21 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: another before
Replies: 2
Views: 137

Can you call someone and talk to them? Or maybe go out somewhere like a grocery store? Walking around looking at things, having to interact with people sometimes those things can make you feel more grounded.
by herebedragons
Sat Jul 16, 2005 5:09 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: before (si trigs)
Replies: 3
Views: 85

I've discussed it a bit with my therapist (but then I've only seen her twice and once was an intake thing so we haven't gotten in depth) and I think her answers were a bit pat and then we moved on to other things. This next time (Which won't be for another month or possibly sometime in September dep...
by herebedragons
Fri Jul 15, 2005 7:20 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: before (si trigs)
Replies: 3
Views: 85

Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point? I'm not really sure, well I know that I want to si in a smaller way to avoid how I really want to si but that's not an answer because there has to be a reason for why I want to do what I'm trying to avoid doing. holy convoluted...
by herebedragons
Fri Jul 15, 2005 7:09 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: before (si trigs)
Replies: 3
Views: 85

before (si trigs)

how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? I'm hoping that the feeling will go away if I hurt myself what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation? how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me clos...
by herebedragons
Fri Jul 15, 2005 6:46 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before *death*
Replies: 1
Views: 73

I'm really sorry about your former student. It's a terrible thing when someone dies young.
by herebedragons
Sun Jun 26, 2005 8:12 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 24
Views: 573

I hear ya. I was about ready to homeschool my son because it was so freakishly hard to get him into a self contained special ed program because he's really high functioning and his school was misunderstanding the point behind "Least restrictive enviornment" Of course part of that was about funding t...
by herebedragons
Sun Jun 26, 2005 8:04 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 24
Views: 573

Oh lordy, it's a tangent I've gone on many times myself. It has a lot to do with funding and how the funding is divided. Under three programs for children with special needs can get funding but all the funding for the older kiddos is funneled towards the schools. The schools are always in desperate ...
by herebedragons
Sun Jun 26, 2005 7:47 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 24
Views: 573

There isn't anything available that is set up to deal with her needs. There are very few options where people can sign and none of them are set up for children who are both Deaf and have other special needs. When she was younger there were tons of resources and we used the heck out of them. At one p...
by herebedragons
Sun Jun 26, 2005 7:36 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 24
Views: 573

Well actually summer school is out because of her sleep disorder (she has a circadian rythm disorder) anything that messes with her schedule tends to throw her sleep for a loop and summer is always bad because she gets screwed up because school is out..then because summer school starts..then because...
by herebedragons
Sun Jun 26, 2005 7:23 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 24
Views: 573

I have minimal patience but I think my daughter has taught me quite a bit about that.
Yep, kiddos are good for that. :o
by herebedragons
Sun Jun 26, 2005 7:22 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 24
Views: 573

I'm wondering if you tried really explaining that those were the thoughts you were having Actually I did somewhat (my poor husband, it was like 1:30 in the morning after all) I talked to him about how I was afraid I had made the wrong choice in not sending her to summer school and such and he point...
by herebedragons
Sun Jun 26, 2005 7:03 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 24
Views: 573

if you never show any disapproval or limits, kids don't know what is right and wrong. I may be more permissive on some issues than I might otherwise be but so far that hasn't caused problems. (Specifically I don't get upset if things get accidentally broken and they don't get punished for accidenta...
by herebedragons
Sun Jun 26, 2005 5:26 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 24
Views: 573

Also my dad would always get angry with us if we were anything but pleasant and I, of course, swore I would never get angry at a child for being upset. And here I was yelling at her for waking us up when she was just feeling lonely. I know, intellectually that there is a difference between a misunde...
by herebedragons
Sun Jun 26, 2005 5:24 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 24
Views: 573

You were very responsive to your kids...both of them. Thank you, part of my guilt was in the fact that I had essentually the same situation with each child and I was able to respond the right way for my son the first time and with my daughter I flubbed it up repeatedly and she ended up getting much...
by herebedragons
Sat Jun 25, 2005 6:00 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 24
Views: 573

I've got to say, in all seriousness, that if I had known how much it would hurt to see my children hurting I don't think I would have had them. It just tears your heart out and stomps on it like nothing else. Once my daughter knew that I understood she went from defiant and pissed as hell to melted ...
by herebedragons
Sat Jun 25, 2005 5:57 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 24
Views: 573

Things got really really bad last night and culminated with me crying and feeling like the worst mother ever and explaining to my husband exactly why I was the worst mother ever. He disagreed and felt there were many worse mothers out there which.... Dear men, I know that SEEMS like the right thing ...
by herebedragons
Sat Jun 25, 2005 5:39 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 24
Views: 573

What's a pinata? Well I spelled it wrong, I can't remember how to make the little sqiggly thing over the "n". It's a hollow papermache thing that is filled with candy and small, generally really crappy, toys. You blindfold children and spill them around then hand them a stick and they attempt to be...