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not sure if this situation has changed or anything, but could you try (or have you tried) typing them into a text file or word doc to compare what is being typed? sometimes my keyboard settings change and the @ symbol doesn't work, or commonly people have capslock or numlock on without noticing.

*sitting with you*

i'm sorry your relationship is causing so much pain right now. do you talk to other people much? eg maybe the assistance line you mentioned?

hi grace, i'm curious about what you said about throwing a tantrum. what would that look like for you? i get the impression that it would help express your feelings but not defuse the situation? what are the up sides and down sides to it? is there a way to use similar behaviour in a more effective w...

the things you mentioned that may lead to feeling bad/stressed, those would absolutely make me feel bad so they could be some of the causes. emotions often come and go in a fleeting way but fighting against them (refusing to see them, feel them or accept them) causes them to last longer. you are not...

how are things today kenmeri?

si is pretty effective at removing that trapped/stressed/can't handle this feeling. i think sometimes self-compassion can be a powerful alternative. thinking about what you think someone else in that situation could do and how you would treat a friend in your situation.

I don't want to see you. I think if i told you that i'd be guilt-tripped by tears and sad pleas. I wish my sis said no when you invited yourself over. I dread you touching me. I know i can get through it all and maybe even have pleasant conversation but it isn't healthy.

Before You Self-Harm write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself: how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? i will feel in control, the situation won't change although it may give me an excuse to do what i'm meant to be doing tomorrow instead what...

hi butterfly. might be a challenge: if a friend or acquaintance did the same things you did at work, would they deserve to be punished? if the answer is no, what purpose would the punishment serve? for me i think doing something wrong makes me feel really awful. it triggers feelings of being worthle...

something that jumped out to me was not sleeping well, as it's also something i struggle with. i have a chart on my wall which has early warning signs for me and what i will do about them. if i'm not sleeping well it's a sign that i hope to act on, by talking to my t, asking for help from my sister,...

I don't know what's going on in my head but i want to si. If i told you i think you'd ask why and i don't have answers. I wish you understood so that i could express my fears without worrying you. I wish it wasn't so taboo to say how i want to hurt myself. I need routine and stability again, i think...

hi butterfly. i'm glad you answered the q's, even if they didn't offer a different solution besides si. i have some questions if that's ok? why do you deserve punishment? if you feel/felt self-hatred, is there a reason for that? if you did si, would you be interested in looking at the 'after' questi...

what do i really want to do right now? how can i best honor the self-protective instinct that has me wanting to self-injure right now? RUN idk i really relate to this answer. sometimes i don't listen to the protective parts of me, or it feels like the only way to protect myself is to numb or run aw...

hi spidey :1soothe: your post reminded me of my own stuff - trying to deal with emotions without knowing how and feeling like i couldn't stand them. i don't know if it's relevant (plus things have likely changed since you posted) but another thing for the tool box might be self-compassion exercises ...

Before You Self-Harm write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself: how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? i won't feel as lost and scared what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation? bring - somethi...

hi steph can i ask - why don't you want to want/need people? i've been told many times that feelings pass and i don't quite believe it because they seem to stick around longer than i can handle, but it can help me sometimes to realise that feelings change and maybe they will pass. what sensations ar...

honey, don't joke about blood, it reminds me about si. you know i still struggle with that and while i can handle minor things you really made a big deal about it which wasn't necessary.

i think it's really brave that you're calling someone when you feel like you aren't coping, and that you are crying and talking about your feelings. it's ok to be stupid or vulnerable or sad. i've had people tell me they would rather talk to me than have me si, no matter the time of day or the circu...

the whole board was down for about a year because the web host went down. there was a temporary forum put up over the past few months and deb managed to restore the database on a new host and integrate posts from the temp board. in the past few years there have been declining people here and the lon...

my words say 'don't squish me', my body language is me pulling or turning away. i don't want to hurt your feelings but what i actually mean is i don't want to be touched right now. if i'm not making eye contact or you know i've been more jumpy than usual, could you please ask first before giving me ...