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personally i just wasn't in a place where i felt up to replying. yet i also felt badly for not replying especially since no one else was replying either. I think this is a lot of the problem with this forum. It doesn't get that much traffic anyway - there's probably only about 5 people who regularl...

Hey Thanks for the reply. I did make it through, but only just. I'd actually opened the drawer to get out my 'tool', then decided I should try one coping method at least, even though I didn't want to. So I read a bit of the bible, and it helped enough to stop me cutting. Am still very urgy though. I...

In depth replies are great, and that's the idea with this forum, but sometimes an "I read and I can relate" type of reply is also useful. It's really important that people get the chance to work through urges and slips over here, but if that's all you can offer in a reply that's ok. But is it fair ...

Yeah I do that too. For me, it depends on the context. If its something that I'm not thinking about doing, just to stop myself crying, then I wouldn't personally class it as SI. However, sometimes I deliberately pinch my arm or something to cope with a situation without showing my emotions, through ...

I'm not in a good place right now, and I have a bad feeling I'm not gonna get through without SI. I'm not sure if I want to get through. But anyway... Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point? Its been a really stressful week. I'm running out of time to finish college, ...

it was good of you to reply Is always a pleasure :wink: as for the work, it's vicious, and since i'm at the best uni in the country (some say) i can't really let it go That's fair - obviously you don't want to go throwing that away unless you absolutely have to. But just be careful you don't get tr...

Hey. I'm sorry you're feeling so bad, and I'm sorry you didn't make it this time. But well done for trying. I can't think too straight tonight - I'm tired, so I hope what I say makes sense. if i see people. i'll distract kit from his work. and people don't really need to know, everyone's stressed no...

Hey I don't have much to say, sorry, except... If I do something positive, I'll feel good that I got through an urge. Have you thought about keeping a record of each urge you do manage to beat, and how you did so. That way, you can look back to encourage yourself that it is possible, and can also se...

If I'm wrong here, please just ignore what I say, but this is how the situation is coming across to me... I can write or draw on myself instead of cut. but it wont give me the release I want............... I think this quote sums it up - to some extent I think its hard to suggest anything that will ...

It just struck me that all of the 'coping' things you mentioned are just aiming to divert your thoughts away from SI and the emotions, rather than expressing them/letting yourself feel them in a non harmful way. Maybe you could have a look at the coping list and see if you can find some that provide...

You may be surprised how many people out there don't judge on first appearances. If you let your personality come through, try to be confident in yourself (I know thats easier said than done!) then I'm sure you will make friends. Even if you do lose your bf, then it doesn't mean you don't have a rea...

Part of me really wants to go to the hospital tonight, even though I still don't want to get caught and don't want people to know what I am doing, and it would be stupid to try to go to the hospital...my family would have to find out, it would cost a lot of money, it would just be a stupid thing to...

Hey. I'm sorry you didn't make it. But well done for making it to 69 days - that's brilliant, and you should focus on how strong you were for making it that long. i've been off my meds since sunday. i decided i didn't want to take them any more. but i know that's a stupid idea. in the future, i'll m...

Hey there Instead of actually talking, maybe you could write it down in a letter/email? That way you aren't under pressure to make that first comment (I know how hard that is), and you can think about each thing you want to say. When you've written it, you also have the choice to revise it, and don'...

To some extent I think you can offer your friend more help than a non-SIer can, because you understand more what its like. Its great that you are helping each other. My two words of warning are: Be careful that you still look after yourself - as others are saying, if you can't cope at that point, do...

Mine are also more obvious when I'm hot or cold. Don't have any theories for the hot times, but when I'm cold I reckon they show up more because the skin becomes paler as the blood goes away from the surface.

Andi

The whole weekend has been a victory in some ways because I have tried so many other things before I cut...It just wasn't enough. But at least you tried, even if it didn't work in the end. I would suggest you record how well you've done - managing 24hrs+ when you don't usually is a great achievemen...

I know what you mean - with the whole of this board I think its important that people get replies and quickly. Because the situation tends to not really be able to wait.

I think to some extent you've helped yourself by doing these qu's - you seem to have realised a fair bit about the situation that you didn't spot at the time. And I think you've come up with some pretty good ways to deal with this in the future. Can you think of a way you'll remind yourself to try t...

I think a lot depends on the mindset behind it - if you're trying to flick it "as hard as you can" and are leaving bruising, I would personally still class it as SI. If you're doing it in moderation, and not so hard that its leaving a mark, I would think thats a half measure to help during quitting ...