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Welcome! Well done for posting :wink: I think to some extent you acted automatically in this situation (which sounds horrible - and I'm not particularly surprised you acted as you did). Looking back, you can see this, and have identified several 'better' responses. Its not that you don't know the al...

Happens to me too. Problem is when I'm imagining doing it, it makes me really want to do it, which doesn't help with not cutting! No helpful suggestions other than what you're doing already - sorry!

Firstly (((((((((hugs))))))))), well done for posting - you did fine! If I hurt myself, I would be able to think better and find a way to make my mom see what she is doing to me Are you sure about this? Is there something else you can do to help yourself think clearer? You mentioned journalling - mi...

Screaming. Making yourself cry. Journalling.

I don't have hugely bright ideas - the only way I get through it is by riding it out.

Andi

the main person who wants me to stop, and who makes me feel bad when i tell her i seem to have failed again, gets mad at me...when i tell her i feel urgy, or i tell her i cut the previous night, she gets mad. as in yells at me....asks me why, and then when i cant provide an answer that clearly show...

Hello - thought I'd just give you some of my thoughts on what you've written. It seems quite clear (and correct me if I'm wrong) that one of the major things you're struggling with is that people who know about your SI want and expect you to stop, while you don't feel you can/want to. From my experi...

Hello - thought I'd just give you some of my thoughts on what you've written. It seems quite clear (and correct me if I'm wrong) that one of the major things you're struggling with is that people who know about your SI want and expect you to stop, while you don't feel you can/want to. From my experi...

Thanks nicki - its nice to know someone else feels a similar way. What you said made a lot of sense to me, especially: The point is that SI has been a part of your life and has become a coping mechanism for you, therefore any situation that results in the feelings you have before you injure, are lik...

I don't know what to do about my husband's depression, I can't cure my own Is he doing anything about it? Is he on meds or getting counselling or anything? If not would he be willing too? Obviously having your partner depressed isn't gonna help your situation, because it brings you down seeing some...

What i do know is that hurting myself gives me a feeling of control, i guess i need to get this feeling without hurting myself and i feel i made a steptowards that through this post and exploring things in my head. Have you tried the 15 minute rule thing? Where you tell yourself you have to wait 15...

Hey Laura - thanks for your reply. I wonder, though, in your efforts to find the right Coping strategy that's more than just a delaying tactic, how far you have analysesd what made you feel like this? I don't think I know. There's no obvious thing - I've never been SA, my parents are happily married...

Do you use coping methods (healthy ones... ) in combination or just on their own? <I>In combination - one very rarely works!</I> Name something that helps you to cope beginning with the letter 'A'. <I>I'm gonna have to be boring and say animals - my dog is one of my best ways of coping</I> Do you se...

I shake when I'm urgy - very disconcerting! I reckon its cos my body/mind can't cope with the situation - you know how people shake when they're scared/nervous - I think its similar to that.

what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying. -i need to write... i will try 1. eating...2. not thinking about *si* and 3. calling friends.... Hey, that's brilliant that you've decided on some things to try....

Hey. People here do care. I care, and I don't even know you. But I still want you to get through the shit and be ok at the end of it. ((((((((((hugs))))))))))) I feel so awful I want to die. I feel so awful I wish someone could just hug me and tell me they love me but no one cares. and when people t...

<B>how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? </B> I'll feel better <B>what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation? </B> It will bring the feeling that I've done something productive, I might be able to get a decent night's sleep, I'll ...

Well done you. I'm glad I never SIed yesterday. I know I may feel like that again soon, but I think I can get through it for now... yesterday was really bad... Can I suggest (not very good at suggestions but hey, I'll have a go!) that you make a note of this post - how bad you felt, how you couldn't...

Thankyou for your replies - sorry I've not come back sooner but my computer decided to die on me. andi wrote: what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work? I tried talking to someone, but couldn't, Was this because no-one was ‘available’ or because you couldn’t bri...

I'd made it nearly 11 months then I messed up. I don't like how I'm feeling right now, and I don't trust myself, so I'm gonna try to do something about it. what had happened just before? I had had a hard week - for no particular reason I'd been thinking about cutting more than usual. That day I'd ju...

I did get out of the hole last year. I began seeing my psychiatrist, and I saw a counsellor for about a year. Those were probably the key things that helped (more my counsellor than the psych, but I'm not seeing her anymore). Maybe you should still be seeing her? If it helped before, then it will p...