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by sojourner_steph
Mon Dec 23, 2019 12:03 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 1
Views: 5536

Before

Before You Self-Harm how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? I'll feel less anxious or whatever this feeling is. what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation? It will stop feelings. It will make things better for a bit and then worse ...
by sojourner_steph
Fri Feb 08, 2019 2:08 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 1
Views: 5109

Before

I'm closer to giving in to SI than I've been in a while, so thought I'd try this . . . Before: Before You Self-Harm write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself: how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? I will stop feeling for awhile. I want that. ...
by sojourner_steph
Sun Sep 09, 2018 2:16 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 3
Views: 6072

Re: Before

I know feelings change - the past week I had a couple days where stuff was ok. But it's really hard again now. The majority of days for the past 4 months have been really hard. I guess it is good to remember that feelings change because when I'm in it, it feels like it's going to be the same forever...
by sojourner_steph
Sun Sep 09, 2018 2:13 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 3
Views: 6072

Re: Before

I want to not want people because I don't know if wanting people is wrong or not. Because in a friendship when someone has mental health problems there needs to be boundaries and I try to put that in place and make sure that no-one will be hurt. I try to protect them. And I have to make sure it neve...
by sojourner_steph
Sun Sep 02, 2018 12:01 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 3
Views: 6072

Before

Before: what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation? It will do what I want right now - stop feeling things, be able to function, not want people. It will take away any long term things. how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting mysel...
by sojourner_steph
Thu Jul 26, 2018 1:20 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 3
Views: 6170

Re: Before

*talks about wanting to die* * * * I feel stuck here. Honestly, sometimes I wish I could be SU (I'm not, never have been, don't worry) - because I'm left with - this constant wanting to die. I think it over and over again. I wish I could die. And even SI, I'm much less likely to give in then I was a...
by sojourner_steph
Thu Jul 26, 2018 1:07 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 3
Views: 6170

Re: Before

Thank you for your reply. I don't know. Stuff is just hard. It's not going away. I want something to help. Work stuff - there's not much I can do that I haven't already done. I've told my boss I struggle with mental health. I've already asked for too much time off. And I've reduced my hours to 15hou...
by sojourner_steph
Wed Jul 25, 2018 10:20 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 3
Views: 6170

Before

how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? I'll stop feeling things for a bit. I might be able to function better and do things for a while. what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation? It will make feelings stop. It will make thinking...
by sojourner_steph
Sun Apr 16, 2017 2:19 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 0
Views: 12920

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by sojourner_steph
Wed Mar 22, 2017 4:50 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before - not the questions though, I hope that's ok
Replies: 6
Views: 5981

Re: Before - not the questions though, I hope that's ok

Thank you Treasure. I appreciate you talking with me and sharing what you've been through too - it helps. Thank you. Alright . . . I think I'm going to do that then, say that I'm unwell and if they want to know more than that they'll ask I guess. I don't think I need a medical certificate, but I thi...
by sojourner_steph
Wed Mar 22, 2017 9:59 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before - not the questions though, I hope that's ok
Replies: 6
Views: 5981

Re: Before - not the questions though, I hope that's ok

Thank you for your reply treasure. I appreciate it and it helped. I'm so sorry that you're struggling with feeling like you can't study and getting behind too. I hope that things get better for you. Thank you for your questions and sharing what's helped you - you helped me to think through stuff a b...
by sojourner_steph
Mon Mar 20, 2017 1:02 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before - not the questions though, I hope that's ok
Replies: 6
Views: 5981

Re: Before - not the questions though, I hope that's ok

Thank you Treasure. I appreciated your response and I've been trying to try some of the things you suggested and it has helped a bit. I did like what you said about intention and about my intention being to look at work and try as opposed to get study done - and I think that helps. . . Honestly thou...
by sojourner_steph
Fri Mar 10, 2017 4:55 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before - not the questions though, I hope that's ok
Replies: 6
Views: 5981

Before - not the questions though, I hope that's ok

I don't know if I feel like answering questions - I might write a bit and then try to answer some. Wanting SI has been really strong for the past 2 weeks. Study is really hard at the moment - I've gotten behind and I'm not catching up because I constantly feel like I want SI and stuff hurts and thou...
by sojourner_steph
Wed Nov 23, 2016 2:49 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 7
Views: 6096

Re: Before

So. . . Because it helped before, I'm going to try writing here again. (Although this might be better suited to my place, but since I've already started talking about this here, I'll keep on writing here for now). Sometimes writing things helps me to work stuff out a bit. So - Centrelink stuff - I c...
by sojourner_steph
Wed Nov 23, 2016 1:06 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 7
Views: 6096

Re: Before

Thank you Treasure. I really appreciated you giving me your time and sharing your own experience with me. It helps. It helps to talk to someone who understands Centrelink. Thank you. I'll keep in mind what you said about disability payments and think about it.
by sojourner_steph
Fri Nov 18, 2016 2:05 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 7
Views: 6096

Re: Before

Some more thoughts Writing here helped. I want to remember that. It helped me work some things out. Like - holding on to not wanting to lose knowing specific things which were behind me feeling a certain way. I wrote that and then the next day I remembered that and it was a reason to not give in to ...
by sojourner_steph
Fri Nov 18, 2016 1:49 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 7
Views: 6096

Re: Before

Treasure - thank you. I appreciated your reply and it helped. Centrelink stuff . . . At the moment I'm seeing a disability job agency and Centrelink has said that I can just work 15 hours per week (or look for that amount of work). So, I've been through a lot of - providing doctor's certificates and...
by sojourner_steph
Sun Nov 13, 2016 9:50 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 7
Views: 6096

Before

Before: Before You Self-Harm write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself: how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? I will feel stuff about having SI'd instead of feeling stuff about stuff which has happened/stuff I think. Which right now I want. B...
by sojourner_steph
Sun Oct 16, 2016 11:05 pm
Forum: administrivia and technical support
Topic: Busmail?
Replies: 5
Views: 10518

Re: Busmail?

Just wondering, is this the same issue with the www.buslist.org website? I noticed a while ago that the link to get to this forum from there is broken. Is that something only Deb can fix? I was just concerned that it means that any new people searching for a forum like this are going to find it hard...
by sojourner_steph
Thu Aug 11, 2016 2:36 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before
Replies: 1
Views: 4831

Before

before how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? I will stop wanting SI for a moment, I'll feel relieved to have just given in and not constantly be so tense and feeling like it all the time - even if that only lasts a short time. It will help me calm down and not feel emotions as ...