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reading and thinking of you, will reply when I can collect my brain

Hmmm...could I propose a new variant on the cat-related theme (one I came up with for annoying jerks but haven't needed yet) Well, my pet vampire was hungry, and I was out of kittens....care to donate some blood? Kat, who has not actually used the kitty excuse since she's at college, but adores the ...

Just figured I'd add my 2c:

You mentioned sexual assault. Masturbation, even compulsive masturbation, is common in people who have experienced SA. Can be good or bad depending on the circumstances. I'll see if I can dig up some stuff for you - I should be in bed and my memory's not working.

There is no set time for grieving. Our society (I assume you're in the US, but I guess other places are similar) tends not to be comfortable with strong emotions - hence the focus on "just getting over it." It's normal to grieve for a long time for someone important. That said, it makes it even hard...

Smells can definitely be triggery - actually I read somewhere (can't find it now) that our sense of smell is the most connected to our emotional memories of any of our senses. I agree with talking with your dad if you can, but I know that my parents would tell me I'm being silly, so your call. If no...

This is something I really struggle with as well. I guess what helps most is to think, "Well, if I do end up doing something really stupid, what's going to happen?" If I'm with my friends, well, we'll probably just laugh about it but no one is really going to think I'm dumb. If it's around strangers...

Hmmm...I'll think about it. A lot of times I'm not outside or somewhere where I can move around like that easily (e.g. middle of the cafeteria, hall just outside class, etc.)

P.S. I put a copy of this thread on main.

This one has been a biggie for me. Right now I get tired extremely easily, and a lot of times I hit a point where even walking back to my dorm is too much. SI seems to help with not feeling so worn out. Does anyone have any ideas for dealing with low energy/low motivation? Especially ones that can e...

I'm sorry, if it gets too bad can you go to the ER? I think they have to treat you. Or maybe call a SI hotline, see if they know anyone, even someone who's wiling to do short-term.

Some of mine: Wear a special charm of some sort (religious symbol for me) that has to be taken off before you SI. Carve the words on a piece of fruit, then eat it. Also, would you consider a category for "things that still work in company"? Most of my SI takes place during the school day. Oh yeah on...

Yeah, sometimes that works. You should have seen my hand last time - it was covered in ink!

Yeah, I do that sometimes, though I'm trying to limit caffeine - too much of it makes me agitated, and then I get pretty urgy. But have you ever tried to make food last for four hours? Maybe hard candy would help.

Only had someone actually see me SI once, and he already knew about it. I felt terrible afterwards, because we're really close and he'd been helping me a lot and I could tell it made him feel like he wasn't helping at all. I've been managing to not SI in class by leaving my tool in my dorm (it's up ...

I never SI'd very deep in public, so blood was never an issue. I do the nail thing too, or bite myself - it looks like I'm just leaning on my hand. Scab-picking, too, if I have any. That and the nails are the worst because I think I started them around 11 or 12 as opposed to 18 with the cutting (I'm...

Thanks.

I'm working on it. I'm having trouble with my classes, though, and they're on things that I'd normally adore. Might try a variant on the compliments notebook. I have a email or two I've saved from a friend. Also possibly investing in red pens - I'm still young enough that drawing on one's self in cl...

Depends. The trouble is usually I'm supposed to be doing something at the time, like paying attention to the professor or engaging in conversation. I do better if I can distract myself with reciting poems or something, but if I actually have to talk/pay attention, it's pretty bad. I usually SI later...

I was wondering how people cope with urges when they're stuck in the middle of a lot of people. I'm in college and I get urges in class (I sometimes cut under the table) or in the cafeteria, or in stores with my parents. I've gotten pretty good at SI'ing without people noticing. I was wondering how ...

For me, all my IRL friends are at college, and Christmas is the one break where we're not even allowed to stay in the dorms (plus I don't have work as an excuse to stay). Just being at home and being expected to be happy to see my parents is a lot.

Sometimes I find cutting into a plastic soda-bottle or something helps. Probably not good if holding a knife is a problem for you, but I always have one with me and I don't use it to SI (too dirty). Sometimes just tearing paper works too - preferably thick paper so you have to work a bit.