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Yes, I do self-injure and I was spanked/struck occassionally as a child, but I don't see the two as correlated for me. In my case, being in a family environment that was emotionally unsafe and invalidating was a bigger factor. Still, that's just me -- we're all different and we all have unique facto...

"The Facade Fades" by Lycia

THE FACADE FADES
Everything fades
As I decline
This facade burns away
And behind it all lies nothing but emptiness and pain

Don't let her guilt-trip you -- her gifts will not make up for the pain she has caused you. Do what you think is best and healthiest FOR YOU.

It depends on how you define "work for me". For me, SI is a short-term fix, a way of venting the rage and despair that wells up inside when nothing else will dispell them. It is NOT a long-term solution to all the issues at the root of the rage and despair. Ultimately, the issues will still remain u...

You're doing the best you can, and that's all anyone can ask of you. Remember that you can always come here if you need to talk. Do you have someone who you feel safe talking to about this? You may not be ready to talk to them about your SI (and they might not be ready for it), but can you talk to t...

It's easier to confide in one's parents if they're trustworthy and supportive, but not all parents are so kind. I wouldn't dare tell my mother about my SI, as she can be a selfish, hurtful person who has betrayed my trust about other things in the past. (Nowadays, I avoid her as much as possible.) M...