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by tzanti
Thu Apr 21, 2011 9:09 am
Forum: coping
Topic: Dissociation - Coping Tips Please
Replies: 6
Views: 549

Re: Dissociation - Coping Tips Please

That is great, but I'm not seeking to fight it. Because the MH people tell me it's a defence mechanism, a way of surviving my current quite heavy inclination toward SU, I need ways to cope with the Dissociation effects on my life, rather than stopping them from happening or fighting them off. I'm of...
by tzanti
Wed Apr 20, 2011 6:47 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: Dissociation - Coping Tips Please
Replies: 6
Views: 549

Dissociation - Coping Tips Please

I was diagnosed with Dissociation about two weeks ago. I had been stressed, depressed and had suicidal thoughts. A psychiatrist told me that I can't think because my mind is unable to cope with the very big emotions, and is 'running away' from them. She told me that in the short term it will be good...
by tzanti
Tue Oct 06, 2009 1:19 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: Place to cry
Replies: 2185
Views: 106105

Re: Place to cry

Crying because I just don't understand why it has to be so hard.
by tzanti
Mon Jul 20, 2009 7:34 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: After - Success
Replies: 1
Views: 100

After - Success

Sorry folks, CBA with formatting tonight. Questions to Answer After A Slip slips are chances to learn. you figure out what stresses are still too hard for you and you can work on how you'll deal with them next time you run into them. so instead of beating yourself up, take action. have you taken car...
by tzanti
Sat Dec 01, 2007 4:31 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: After
Replies: 0
Views: 109

After

his happened a week and a half ago... * have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do that now. we'll wait. Yes, I tried to do it that night, but had to do it in the morning. * what had happened just before? I got home to chaos, actually more filth than there had been that morning, more...
by tzanti
Fri Nov 17, 2006 6:49 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: After
Replies: 2
Views: 92

I work from home, so I can't leave the stress at work because I live there. Things de-stressed dramatically about half an hour after I posted when the the latest cash crisis materialised and the whole project's been put on hold, probably til the new year. This means I can go find a job with less str...
by tzanti
Fri Nov 17, 2006 11:22 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: After
Replies: 2
Views: 92

After

Questions to Answer After A Slip slips are chances to learn. you figure out what stresses are still too hard for you and you can work on how you'll deal with them next time you run into them. so instead of beating yourself up, take action. * have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do...
by tzanti
Mon Oct 30, 2006 5:37 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: After
Replies: 2
Views: 99

After

Questions to Answer After A Slip slips are chances to learn. you figure out what stresses are still too hard for you and you can work on how you'll deal with them next time you run into them. so instead of beating yourself up, take action. * have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do...
by tzanti
Sat Oct 28, 2006 12:01 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: After (Please Help. No Hugs.)
Replies: 2
Views: 103

After (Please Help. No Hugs.)

Questions to Answer After A Slip slips are chances to learn. you figure out what stresses are still too hard for you and you can work on how you'll deal with them next time you run into them. so instead of beating yourself up, take action. * have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do...
by tzanti
Fri Oct 06, 2006 1:05 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: bullying
Replies: 22
Views: 852

I was bullied a lot. I was a very sensitive kid, and would burst into tears at the drop of a hat. So I was an easy target. The crying thing finally stopped about 15, but that's about where my SI started. Like most bullied kids, I did my share of bullying as well. Oddly, one of my closest friends in ...
by tzanti
Mon Oct 02, 2006 4:38 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: Complacency
Replies: 1
Views: 59

Complacency

This might sound a little hysterical, but I'm worried about getting complacent. I've been SI-free for about two and a half weeks on this streak, with some help from bus through a couple of rough bits. But now I have started to worry, or at least think about, what happens when I forget the days of 1+...
by tzanti
Wed Sep 06, 2006 10:03 am
Forum: coping
Topic: Turn your emotions into something tangible
Replies: 26
Views: 1150

Awesome Idea!!! I'd turn my fear into a net that envelopes me and binds me. I'd cut through it and leave it on the ground as I walked away from it. I'd turn my anger into a bolt of lightning, powerful and beautiful, but unlikely to strike me again. I'd turn my hate, all of my hate, into a paper boat...
by tzanti
Mon Sep 04, 2006 3:10 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: The arts
Replies: 9
Views: 334

I have the artistic ability of a tree. But yes, doodles, writing (I do lots of LRP and my TT is on the up again so I have plenty to write for) and even singing (or perhaps in my case that should be sinning) are good distrations.

I also find sudoku quite useful.

T.
by tzanti
Sun Sep 03, 2006 9:02 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: cutting in H. I. IRL
Replies: 11
Views: 364

I'm not sure what 'Human Interaction' classes entail. Can you tell me? Sounds as though it involves some quite robust subjects, though. I believe that you have every right not to discuss difficult subjects with a roomful of strangers unless you choose to do so. Did the teacher already know, or did s...
by tzanti
Fri Sep 01, 2006 6:51 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before + After
Replies: 1
Views: 70

Questions to Answer After A Slip slips are chances to learn. you figure out what stresses are still too hard for you and you can work on how you'll deal with them next time you run into them. so instead of beating yourself up, take action. I've been trying not to give in to the urge all day. But I t...
by tzanti
Fri Sep 01, 2006 11:27 am
Forum: coping
Topic: can't give hugs
Replies: 12
Views: 315

My family were never particularly physically affectionate. I dislike hugs, and I think I always have done. Even 'virtual' hugs make me nervous and uncomfortable. I don't know that there is anything wrong with it, though.

T.
by tzanti
Fri Sep 01, 2006 11:15 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Before + After
Replies: 1
Views: 70

Before + After

Before You Self-Harm write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself: It's eleven days since I last hit. I am having a bad morning, and there is this urge in the back of my head. It's been there all the time. But I don't get slowly building urges so this feels really al...
by tzanti
Tue Aug 29, 2006 11:57 am
Forum: coping
Topic: Dreaming and bad days________*SI* and *Language*
Replies: 2
Views: 87

Dreaming and bad days________*SI* and *Language*

This has been my longest patch of no SI in about 3 years. So that's good. Thing is, it keeps turning up in my dreams. I've had little sleep lately (my own fault, been LRPing so getting to bed about 3AM and having to be up in kit and full make-up for 10AM) but I keep dreaming about things that go wro...
by tzanti
Tue Aug 22, 2006 2:45 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: What's Your Story? **SI**
Replies: 55
Views: 3908

It's three days since my last slip. Three days ago my goal was one day without SI. So in that respect, life is good. I first got depressed when I was 10. I was halfway through my penultimate year of primary school, hated my teacher (who got on with my parents like a house on fire) and was having a c...
by tzanti
Sat Aug 19, 2006 10:30 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: What song describes how you're feeling?
Replies: 1417
Views: 76786

This song sums me up so well. It's how I feel now, and most of the time. Veteran of the Psychic Wars - Blue Oyster Cult You see me now a veteran of a thousand psychic wars I've been living on the edge so long Where the winds of limbo roar And I'm young enough to look at And far too old to see All th...