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R, I'm sorry I got so upset with you on Sunday. I know I have already apologized, but I'm not ready to explain to you why I got so upset. I have tried to tell you it wasn't you and that is the truth, but Sunday was just a bad day for me. I'm not ready to talk and I know you are ready to listen when ...

No, you did not fail - you slipped. Now find your boot straps or keep posting in here and someone will help you locate them so you can pull yourself back up! (hugs)

How are you doing? I'm here if you ever neeed to talk... *hugs*

how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? I will feel better. My urge will go away. I will be able to visualize my emotions. The feelings will go numb, which are easier to deal with than this wide range of chaos in my head. what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what wil...

First you need to figure out what you hope to accomplish by telling them you self-injure. Why are you telling them? How will this help you? What are any possible consequences of telling them? Once you can figure this out, you can then figure out exactly WHAT you need to tell them. Knowing what to sa...

What motivates you to try a coping thing instead of si'ing? - I have gone over 6months without cutting and I really want to try and wear my new swimsuit out in public this summer, despite my scars. I won't be able to wear it if I have any new marks that might be visible. - I have to remind myself e...

I just bought a swimsuit the same day and didn't want to not be able to wear it!! Ha I just hope having the swimsuit around will help me not hurt myself for a while...

- Take up a craft/ hobby... mine is crochet and I love it! You can do it while you are doing something else, like watching TV or listening to music. Keeping my hands busy helps reduce urges and also proves to me that I can do something POSITIVE with my hands, rather than just self-destructive ones. ...

I slept instead of going to church, which was stupid, because I needed some church time.

I don't just want to cry right now, I want to throw myself a full out pity party! I want to yell, scream, curse, and suddenly feel relief... I want someone who understands me to listen, care, and give me a great big hug.

This topic totally cracks me up!!! I don't have a cat, but when I did -- I didn't like to blame him.

I have to be aware of my limits on the boards and I have to remember the limits of these boards. The boards are posted mainly my fellow survivors and not professionals, however they are monitored. BUS can either trigger me or help me, depending on what I allow the boards to do. I have to be careful ...

I do one of two things: 1. Set them straight and talk about how stupid it is to make jokes like that. I explain I have done research on this in college (when I truly have and to quite an extent!) and we talk about it. I can talk about SI with a straight face and just talk about the facts. I learned ...

Here is an idea... Do you ever think that the reason you aren't getting better is because you are doing things that aren't necessarily helping you get better? You are admitting that you are only taking the medication because you want to make sure you are "taking something" in case the worst scenario...

Frozen wrote:sex with a porcupine

UNPROTECTED sex with a porcupine, for me i tell them a big story about "Porky" who lives under my bed (even while in college in the dorms and that the resident assistant didn't know about it too)!!!

I think about my future family, but right now my future family includes me, a huge fish tank, and a couple cats... maybe a husband and kids later on ;) I don't see thinking about my future family as a way to help me cope better though because it actually makes me more overwhelmed. I have already don...

WOWIE! What an offer!!! I know I wouldn't take the surgery right now in my life because I don't think I'm completely finished with this chapter of my life, however I wish I were... I know I personally will not set out to get rid of my scars/ consider getting rid of my scars until I am totally finish...

limestone wrote:have you tried any relaxation tapes? they can be calming i find.

I don't know how to relax. I think that is another one of my problems... I have trouble focusing on those types of tapes unless I feel like I'm in a safe environment and my house isn't a safe place for me.

will hurting yourself solve the relationship stuggle? Do I need to hurt myself? Yes and no. --*need* or really really want to & it'd be a helluva lot easier right now if you did? Until my best-friend and I can get our lives settled down a bit, things are going to be flux. I need to patient and just...

Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point? I am upset about a relationship, the relationship between me and my best-friend from college. I'm feeling very unstable in the friendship and I feel like we are losing touch with each other for reasons I cannot control. We have...