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by kcubrats
Thu Feb 01, 2007 5:43 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Then again, before
Replies: 2
Views: 159

thanks for the explanation. i'll go visit those threads right now :)
by kcubrats
Tue Jan 30, 2007 6:09 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Then again, before
Replies: 2
Views: 159

Then again, before

Before You Self-Harm write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself: how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? it'll go worse coz i'm not supposed to harm myself but i'll feel relieved what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take...
by kcubrats
Sat Jan 20, 2007 1:49 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: After
Replies: 4
Views: 162

oh....and thanks for asking :)
by kcubrats
Sat Jan 20, 2007 1:49 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: After
Replies: 4
Views: 162

hey
now that i recall, i never thought of the consequences. i just got up from bed and did it. it happened too fast for me to think about it.
it was like scene 1 i'm on bed.... scene 2 i'm sitting on the bathrooms floor. there was nothing between the two scenes.
by kcubrats
Fri Jan 19, 2007 3:11 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: After
Replies: 4
Views: 162

After

Questions to Answer After A Slip slips are chances to learn. you figure out what stresses are still too hard for you and you can work on how you'll deal with them next time you run into them. so instead of beating yourself up, take action. have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do ...
by kcubrats
Sun Dec 10, 2006 6:00 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: before
Replies: 2
Views: 147

hello there and thanx for responding of course the urge was gone but it's kinda back. i no longer have my SI tools and dont know what to do because i'm feeling kinda SU again and somehow like i'm dirty and disgusting but cant do anything opposite to SI because i cant let my parents know how i'm feel...
by kcubrats
Fri Dec 08, 2006 1:43 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: before
Replies: 2
Views: 147

before

Before: Before You Self-Harm write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself: how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? i will feel relieved what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation? it'll take away my ...
by kcubrats
Thu Feb 02, 2006 5:59 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: after :(
Replies: 8
Views: 320

i have a diary, but it's more like an abstract drawing/writing notebook, not exactly a diary per se coz i dont write on it daily.... and i have a blog too but dont post every day....it's an extension of the black notebook i call "diary"
by kcubrats
Wed Feb 01, 2006 5:13 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: after :(
Replies: 8
Views: 320

yeah, preventing urges is a key point to beat SI...the problem is i havent found out what triggers it, because when less expected, i'm dealing with an urge and can't concentrate enough to realize what triggered it seconds ago...
by kcubrats
Tue Jan 31, 2006 5:38 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: after :(
Replies: 8
Views: 320

thanks for everything...it feels so good to know you're not alone... i think that, no matter how soon i catch the urge, if i'm determined to SI from the beginning, nothing would stop me...i mean, last time i SIed the urged appeared by 1pm....and i SIed about 12 hours ago....so the urge didnt go away...
by kcubrats
Mon Jan 30, 2006 8:02 am
Forum: coping
Topic: who are you right now? *lang trigs*
Replies: 419
Views: 32529

i am giving up pathetic alone cold i'm not who i want to be self confident optimistic i feel urgy sad lazy alone disgusted i want to SI to talk to him him to love me to stop making mistakes to be asleep someone to talk to i need love help new tools a reason i have things i dont deserve a broken hea...
by kcubrats
Mon Jan 30, 2006 5:52 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: after :(
Replies: 8
Views: 320

hi...thanks for replying.... How long after you get an urge do you begin to use your healthy coping skills? right away How often do you stop and think about how you are feeling? i try hard quite often but usually cant concentrate on anything but the urge to SI What other ways can you deal with found...
by kcubrats
Sun Jan 29, 2006 5:32 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: after :(
Replies: 8
Views: 320

after :(

have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do that now. we'll wait. yes i have, theyre not that serious what had happened just before? right after nothing that trigged it, i thought of it all day and i finally found the "right" time to do it what were you thinking and feeling? i was thi...
by kcubrats
Sun Jan 22, 2006 8:11 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: before
Replies: 0
Views: 158

before

how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? i will feel more relaxed...i will feel like i have something to hold on to what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation? it will take my anxiety away and my urge and all the crap growing inside ...
by kcubrats
Mon Jan 16, 2006 9:56 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Questionnaire on *You* & Before and After forum
Replies: 28
Views: 14341

Re: Questionnaire on *You* & Before and After forum

Why do you visit before and after? because it helps me to stop before i SI What do you get out of it? release, i mean, it helps me to think things twice What prompts you to think posting might be a good idea? i.e. what thought, feeling, or what happens i post coz i want to stop and im willing to str...
by kcubrats
Mon Jan 16, 2006 9:50 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: before
Replies: 2
Views: 152

What function does SI serve for you? You said that it gets rid of urges, but how does it do that? Is it grounding? Does it feel like punishment? it's not punishment...it's a way to release all the anxiety i have to turn inward to avoid arguments at home... Can you figure out specifically what purpo...
by kcubrats
Wed Jan 11, 2006 8:45 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: before
Replies: 2
Views: 152

before

how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? i'll feel somehow satisfied and eased what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation? it'll take away the urge how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me ...
by kcubrats
Sat Jan 07, 2006 6:48 am
Forum: coping
Topic: Things Left Unsaid *LA*
Replies: 1872
Views: 93826

Adam : i love you Gama : check your fucking email inbox and answer me!!! Perla : Thank you so much Germana : I adore you, thanks so much Paty, Eunice : fucking bitches, i hate you Olga, Alba : stop being the followers of the bitches mentioned above and think for youselves!! Bruise : fade, fade, fade...
by kcubrats
Thu Jan 05, 2006 10:05 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: Right now I feel...
Replies: 2081
Views: 90239

hopeful
very hungry
confused
calm
a little anxious
headache
by kcubrats
Thu Jan 05, 2006 10:00 am
Forum: coping
Topic: How do you feel about your scars?
Replies: 113
Views: 8522

i have fresh scars right now...a little one, which seems to be fading quickly...and a big one, which is a bruise rather than a scar, it makes me feel grossed out, ashamed, anxious and afraid, i want it to fade asap...
the very first scars are way too faded to even be noticed...