What's YOUR plan for when you can't get on BUS? [Read Please

Post by **Spidey** » Wed Aug 23, 2006 11:52 pm

Sometimes due to circumstances beyond your control (or within your control) - you can't get on the board. Either because it goes down, the Internet screwed up, your computer screwed up or the board is down for general maintenance, you just can't get on.

There are many bussers who rely on this board to get them through their most difficult times. While it is good that you rely on this board, you have to make some kind of contingency plan of what to do until the board goes back up if you're in crisis / having a difficult time / need the board for whatever reason under the sun.

So, I ask you -- What's YOUR plan for when you can't access the board?

If it helps to start the topic, here's my plan:

For times I can't access the board, and I really need it, I:

- Try to use the DBT skills I know to get to the problem
- Call / IM one of my friends
- Pet my cats
- Talk to my family
- Watch TV or DVD's
- Listen to music
- Drive around
- Do things I've been procrastinating on doing
- Sleep

That's just what I do for those who need an example - so...

What is YOUR plan for when you can't get on BUS?

Licentia Poetica · Post by **Licentia Poetica** » Thu Aug 24, 2006 1:16 am

Sometimes I find it helpful to write in word what I would normally post on bus, and save it for posting later.

It's awesome when you go back to post it, read your words again, and realise you've moved on from that place & dealt with things on your own.

Otherwise IM'ing friends from bus helps a lot.

Or taking the down time to do look around secret shame and maybe find out some things I didn't think about before.

pinky · Post by **pinky** » Thu Aug 24, 2006 4:47 am

i go for a walk with my puppies

i clean up around the house and do some extra cleaning too

i IM my friends on Yahoo

i IM my son

i straighten up the area around my computer and throw out all the junk that seems to collect there

i give my puppy a shower and then comb her out, which takes about 4 or 5 hours

i hand write letters to my friends

i clean and wash down the refrigerator

i clean my oven

i go outside and read underneath a tree

i make a list of the positives in my life

i make a monthly budget

half/hearted · Post by **half/hearted** » Thu Aug 24, 2006 10:45 pm

constructive stuff:

catch up on the laundry (soothing, repetitive task--I can fold laundry in front of the TV)

clean up around the house

back up the files on my laptop...this may be painful for some people but I don't really mind it

do the dishes

plan outfits for the next few days

personal fun stuff:

draw pictures

spend time with my cats--brush them, pet them, clip their nails...

do japanese calligraphy (very cool--it's artistic, and I can choose a word like "endure" or "tranquility," something thematic

)

make pixel art or computer graphics

play piano/keyboard

write songs, lyrics, or poetry

get outside--take a walk, pick some flowers to press, take photos

make music playlists/mix CDs of favorite songs

if worst comes to worst:

find one of my family members, explain that I am feeling bad and ask them if we can cuddle up and watch a movie or something

call my therapist

if I get urgey--cut up paper, draw on my arm, sing (singing angsty rock songs helps me feel better

)

angelic212 · Post by **angelic212** » Fri Nov 17, 2006 6:59 pm

okay, i remembered about this post yesterday when the board was down,

i didnt have a plan

but here are the things i did

i played with my game boy

played computer games

listened to music

chatted on msn

jumped on my small trampoline

took a shower

then went to sleep
and now im back on bus again

im going to have a plan for next time just in case

Licentia Poetica · Post by **Licentia Poetica** » Fri Dec 14, 2007 2:48 pm

tanz · Post by **tanz** » Fri Dec 14, 2007 9:55 pm

Usually I sleep, draw or listen some music.

dncn4lyfe77 · Post by **dncn4lyfe77** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 2:13 am

talk to someone from bus on AIM

Write in a journal

Take a hot shower

Mayalaen · Post by **Mayalaen** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 9:15 am

*Get around family and friends

*Chat on MSNM

*Go shopping with family and friends

*Play games online

*STAY AWAY FROM THE BATHROOM (where the sharp/shiny objects live)

megseh · Post by **megseh** » Wed Dec 19, 2007 6:11 am

Tonight, actually the connection is screwy with my cable and internet. When it messed up the last time, I put my ipod on shuffle and drew. When the doodle seemed finished I played Minesweeper

Librariana · Post by **Librariana** » Thu Dec 20, 2007 12:41 am

This is a great thread for me right now...my computer keeps shutting down on me, and we don't know what's wrong with it and can't afford to have it looked at right now. So online time is getting rare around here. I'm lucky I managed to coax the box to run at all today. It could shut down any second.

I've got a little over 30 days si free, but lately I've been having some crisis moments, as I call them. (It's probably not really a crisis, but I feel upset about something, then the desire to si hits me, and THEN it becomes a crisis. I make my own crisis moments.

)

Once in the middle of the night...my brain woke me up JUST to try to get me to cut...sheesh...I couldn't get on the computer and my emergency box was in the bedroom and I didn't want to wake up my husband. So I made lists. For about an hour, I think. Lists of everything and nothing. I had a grocery list, a things to do list, a things NOT to do list, a list of wishes, a list of fears, a list of books I want to read, a list of colors I like and colors I don't like, a list of my favorite words...etc., ad infinitum. I had to think about what I was doing and that sort of pushed the urge out of my head. Once I felt better I went back to bed.

But that doesn't always happen, and I'm scared to death that my brain will fritz out on me and I'll forget/block out all my coping tools...or I'll go into one of those fugue moments when I don't really know what I'm doing...

I guess lately what I've done when I can't get online and my sponsor's not available is simply to keep moving. It's harder to hit a moving target, and if I don't slow down the thoughts can't keep up, I figure. I clean, dance, walk, challenge the dog to a tug of war, or sometimes just pace in a circle in the living room. Anything just to keep moving. I know that sounds manic, but hey...I AM bipolar, so if the disorder fits...

recovering4me · Post by **recovering4me** » Tue Jan 01, 2008 2:18 am

call someone

pet my animals

snuggle under the covers

Nursing_girl · Post by **Nursing_girl** » Tue Jan 01, 2008 2:29 am

Talk to my friends

Watch a movie/listen to music

Go somewhere...like the store

Go for a walk

Read

Play some puzzle games online

Clean the apartment

WildChild101 · Post by **WildChild101** » Wed Jan 02, 2008 3:20 am

-Play my guitar
-Sing
-Walk
-Play with my little sisters
-eat

porcelain · Post by **porcelain** » Thu Jan 03, 2008 12:56 am

listen to music

draw

write

IM someone

watch a movie

call a friend

Peege · Post by **Peege** » Thu May 15, 2008 2:58 pm

Cuppy · Post by **Cuppy** » Thu May 15, 2008 3:18 pm

Yesterday when the board was down, I played in my backyard with my dogs. Stayed out there so long I am sun BURNT today. Anyway, just the most stress free thing I could think of to do, playing with them out there, but still.. I felt kinda lost and sad and a little worried too.

Weetzie Bat · Post by **Weetzie Bat** » Thu May 15, 2008 3:42 pm

use other support sites and online diaries to vent and for support

do some art

read a safe book

use the vast list of coping strategies (once I've printed it out)

look at my happy box

look at pictures of the kitten I'm getting (Yay)

go for a walk with my boyfriend

play gameboy or online games

if all else fails call my crisis team

PassingCloud · Post by **PassingCloud** » Sat Aug 30, 2008 11:25 am

bump

Callisto · Post by **Callisto** » Sat Aug 30, 2008 3:15 pm

My plan is pretty much the same as the one I apply when I'm really busy and have no time to be here:

-reading
-watching TV/DVDs
-talking to friends
-socialising with friends
-taking some 'me' time
-looking after my cats
-playing with my DS
-focusing on one of my other projects a bit more

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