Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.

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Post by scorpio19th » Sun Jul 16, 2006 12:32 am

PS... I read thru the entire list again, visualizing this time around, and noticed another one that's perfect for me... #71 Bark Stripping.

I have very fair skin, and at an early age, started peeling at sunburns. Did it real slowly, kinda like peeling an apple, see how long a piece you could get in one pull.

And I like the outdoors, it's SO much more peaceful there, so now I can go for a short walk, sit under a tree, and pick up a stick and a little rock.

I can easily scrape and peel and pick and rub, until it's smooth as glass, and never have it trigger anything in my mind but a sense of soothing patience.

So thanks again, great list. Later.
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Post by Guest » Sun Jul 16, 2006 5:34 pm

Thankyou! Really helpful

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Post by pinky » Sun Aug 06, 2006 7:47 pm

i never checked out the list before...

WOW


that is some list :)

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Post by recovering4me » Tue Sep 19, 2006 10:40 pm

WOW thats a long ass list! lol u know the sleeping naked one works lol I love doing that :) esp with a soft blankie :D
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Post by angelic212 » Sun Nov 19, 2006 8:08 pm

thank you for this list

it s really helpful

i took the time to read it all

and im going to try some alternatives that i have never tried before

and i have checked out your website too Laura and its really helpful

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Post by one out of none » Thu Dec 21, 2006 11:21 am

Hi,
Wow that was a brilliant list, I've printed it out, some of them have to work!

I haven't read them all yet so apologies if this is already on the list. It's been a good while since I cut, but I think it helps to take it day by day and week by week.

I bought some really thin beaded bracelets, threaded on sort of elasticated string. You usually get thim in bundles of about 10 or 15. On monday I'll put one on, and then at the end of the day, I'll say, 'ok, you made it through that difficult day' and put another one on. And so on as the week progresses. At the end of the week I take them all off and start again.

It's like a physical 'getting through the week' strategy, and also, because they're elasticated and have beads on them, you can snap them on your wrist, like the elastic band idea, and it hurts.
Just an idea, this is one of the only ones that has ever worked for me, I hope it helps.

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Post by thisshallbeformusic » Sun Feb 04, 2007 2:48 am

thanks for the list. i know my T will be happy, we're working on stopping. now i won't have an excuse!

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Post by Fly » Fri Feb 09, 2007 8:37 pm

Wauw, it's a really long list!!! thanx for putting it all together :D
i've printed it out and i've put it in my dairy.

This will certain help me to 'throw' SI out of my life. My T will be happy too about this list :wink:

Again: lots of thanx!!!! :star: :star:
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Post by VIRGINIA » Mon Feb 12, 2007 4:27 pm

you have no idea how much i needed this. thank you!
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Post by natgirl05 » Fri Mar 02, 2007 4:28 pm

Thanks for the list. I'll use some of them when the next urge hits.
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Post by a shadow in the wind » Sat Apr 14, 2007 5:32 pm

hay gr8 list

got a few ideas of my own some of the msound a bit stupid but they work 4 me so they might 4 u i duno??

1. brushing my teath 4 ages (told you it sounded stupid)

2. weight lifting

3. chewing gum
4 this by a paket and stuf the whole lot in at once(this also works with buble gum if u dont like chewingum)
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Post by amber_lynne10 » Sun Jun 10, 2007 8:12 am

Thank you sooo much! i needed that so bad, i was thinking about it. those were awsome ideas! i made a folder about myself(because a lot of my friends dont know about my problems) and when i feel upset i write about it and keep it in the folder. i draw doodles of quotes or poems i like. or try and help a friend, seeing them smile makes me feel better.

Thanks again for the list, it helped sooo much :)

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Post by Beasty » Thu Jun 14, 2007 2:26 am

Holy god that is HUGE
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Post by Porcelain_Doll » Fri Jun 15, 2007 2:07 am

At the begining of the school year my social studies teacher took us all out to the river. He handed us each a few marshmallows and had us invision all our problems and troubles in the marshmallow, squish them into it if you want. Then one, or if we wanted two, at a time we walked onto the bridge, threw the marchmallows into the water, and walked over the bridge. Our troubles were washed away and we crossed over the bridge so we could move on. It was actually really moving.
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Post by Elfgirl » Tue Aug 21, 2007 9:28 pm

This is a good list. I think it's probably helpful in dealing iwht my other unhealthy coping mechanisms, too.

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Post by ??? » Sat Oct 06, 2007 9:42 pm

This list is awesome.
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Post by Chey Kizoxie » Sun Oct 07, 2007 2:54 am

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Post by nitewalks » Fri Oct 19, 2007 4:22 am

amazing...ugh yet terribly depressing..

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Post by recovering/pastor » Sun Oct 28, 2007 3:00 am

Thank you. Just reading through this list made me feel better tonight.
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