Strike Back of Secrets! [The Secrets Thread - Read 1st Post]

tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.

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Strike Back of Secrets! [The Secrets Thread - Read 1st Post]

Post by Spidey » Thu May 17, 2007 4:18 am

Welcome back to Version 2.0 of the Secrets Thread.

Inspired by <a href="http://www.postsecret.com">PostSecret</a>, this is a place where everyone can come and post a secret.

<b>GUIDELINES:</b>

- Secrets can often be painful and negative. That is okay. But that <i>doesn't</i> mean this thread can be used as a loophole to get around BUS rules.

- No attacks on other members. If you have a beef with another member, take it up with them.

- No suicide notes, and nothing that is pro-suicide.

- Nothing that is pro-SI or pro-ED - we understand that everyone here is in different stages of recovery, but there are places on the board where you can work out / through those feelings.

- No manipulative comments that you intend someone else to find and have a reaction to.

- You cannot post that you ARE hurting yourself, WILL WITHOUT DOUBT hurt yourself or HAVE hurt yourself if you need and don't intend to get medical help. "Hurting yourself" includes SI, SU, OD's, destructive eating disorder behaviour like purging or starving, as well as putting yourself in dangerous situations like approaching/ contacting an abuser. This stuff is either against BUS rules or belongs in the B&A forum, or somewhere you can get constructive feedback like main or some of the more "analys-y" coping threads.
Examples wrote:Can say:

I want to hurt myself.
I feel like I don't deserve to eat.
I feel like being skinny will solve my problems.
I want to die.
I feel fat.
I hurt myself.
Suicide feels like a good option.
I am scared to get help.

Can't say:

I have a blade in my hand and I'm cutting now.
Tomorrow at uni I'm going to hurt myself.
I've taken an OD and don't want anyone to know.
My friend wants to die and I think it's a good idea for him.
I'm not eating anything today because I don't deserve it.
I want to know how to purge better.
I'm going to kill myself next week.
Life sucks, so long y'all.

- You can ask for PM's/ comments, but if you really want replies, please don't be hesitant to go over to nest, or somewhere you'll know without doubt that you've been heard.

- As with anywhere else on the board, you must use spoilers if and when they are necessary.

<b>WARNING</b>

If this thread is not used constructively and continues to go against the spirit of the coping forum (as the old one did), it will be locked and it will stay that way.

Also, any person who continually uses this thread for unconstructive purposes (meaning, they violate the guidelines set above continually), will risk having their posting priveliges in this revoked.

<b>Other Useful Links</b>

<a href="http://buslist.org/phpBB/viewtopic.php? ... 6">Secrets and More</a>

<a href="http://buslist.org/phpBB/viewtopic.php?t=96256">The Constructive Venting Thread</a>

<a href="http://buslist.org/phpBB/viewtopic.php?t=101831">How You Feel And What You're Going to Do About It</a>

<a href="http://buslist.org/phpBB/viewtopic.php?t=38812">Reasons For Living</a>
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Post by Licentia Poetica » Thu May 17, 2007 4:32 am

University makes me want to go to bed and stay there :roll:
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Post by half/hearted » Thu May 17, 2007 5:47 am

i don't think I have any secrets that can be printed here.
Please be gentle with me.

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Post by strmdncr » Thu May 17, 2007 6:58 am

I'm more scared of what sucess would ultimately mean than of failure.

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Post by TEDAIC » Thu May 17, 2007 4:48 pm

Im scared that i will get all my qualifications then not use them and let everyone down
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Post by starcatuk » Thu May 17, 2007 5:42 pm

im scared ill fail everything like i did before

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Post by Margot » Thu May 17, 2007 9:17 pm

I've been abused for a year when I was little. Nobody knows...

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Post by Helba » Thu May 17, 2007 11:12 pm

I am scared to change.

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Post by leemc77 » Fri May 18, 2007 2:11 pm

I am afraid that I won't get a new job for next year. :cry:
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Post by Callisto » Fri May 18, 2007 2:54 pm

I love him but I don't think I'm in love with him anymore.

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Post by piano_life » Fri May 18, 2007 7:40 pm

I have played the piano so much today my hands hurt.

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Post by jaded melody » Fri May 18, 2007 8:04 pm

... im scared I wont be able to cope with uni, or even making the decision of where to go... really really terrified. I'm scared to feel better, I'm scared of my meds working because I dont know if I know how to not be depressed... and yet I'm really scared they wont work and I'll be stuck feeling awful forever.

Im scared I dont deserve therapy.

I just feel stuck

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Post by starcatuk » Fri May 18, 2007 8:20 pm

i wish i had more courage

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Post by Stripe » Fri May 18, 2007 9:40 pm

Despite having attempted SU in the past, the thing I am most scared of is dying
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Post by piano_life » Sat May 19, 2007 12:57 am

I cannot cope at the moment, nothing is getting easier, quite the opposite.

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Post by TEDAIC » Sat May 19, 2007 1:12 am

Im jealous of everyone
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Post by Quiet little Angel » Sat May 19, 2007 12:32 pm

i'm so scared of going to uni... i'm scared i might make the wrong decition in what i want to study or which uni i want to go to... i'm so scared i'll be completely alone there... that people wont like me... that i'll be too stupid... that i'll fail everything... but i have no choise... too many people know now, so i just have to do it... i have no choise but to cope with it...
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Post by mephistopheles » Sat May 19, 2007 6:34 pm

I think this whole thing with I is hurting me more than it's helping.
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Post by Callisto » Sat May 19, 2007 8:29 pm

I love you, but part of me gets scared by that so I push you away. I'm sorry. But I do love you more than you know.

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Post by Scatterbrain » Sat May 19, 2007 9:05 pm

I can feel myself starting to not cope... I dont know what to do about it.

the bad thoughts are back

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