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maybe do this only if the feelings are a bit calmer, or if you can make a promise to yourself to try healthy ways of coping... i'm curious - there are probably other thoughts in between "i'm fat" and feeling really horrible. it sounds like a spiral of things - negative thoughts leading to feelings w...

*slight challenge* yes, i will recognize it when, as always, i feel that desperate, itchy feeling i did not try other ways of coping why didn't you try other ways of coping? if you know why, then maybe you can address that. some reasons might be that si is more effective, or that you don't see any o...

hi moon raver. two things i've learned when dealing with the itchy desperate feelings - first that si is a coping mechanism so it makes sense to want it or need it, but sometimes the feelings you are escaping are not as bad as you think they are. if you give yourself permission to feel bad for a lit...

hi moon raver, i was wondering if you wrote the last 2 posts about the same si urges? if so - did you do anything creative like you planned to? :lblstar: what were you thinking and feeling? :blueheart: i thought i don't deserve to eat, i deserve to starve. i felt ashamed. :lblstar: why did you end u...

there's a few things on bus about grounding - do you think concentrating on healthy grounding techniques might help? things like naming things you see, hear, feel, taste and smell or giving yourself something nice to experience with your senses. for me sometimes feeling like shit can be made worse i...

my favourite motivation tool is telling myself i'll do 5 mins, or less, on something. it often leads to a longer stretch of motivation, but even if it doesn't, you have at least done it for 5 mins, and you can use the trick on a different task. another trick is bribing yourself - you'll get a cup of...

i didn't think i could lie about it and i knew there'd be consequences once i told someone. and i would feel like i disappointed people.

where do you study? it might help to change the environment, to make sure you're in a quiet and comfortable space without too many distractions. if you don't already, you might go to a public library to study? do you have plans for what needs to be done when? break down the tasks into smaller ones a...

outwardly i'm fine, inwardly i'm a mess. if i talk about it, i'm scared of feeling everything and getting overwhelmed so i just can't, at least not yet. i feel like i'm lying but i guess you know i'm not really ok or i wouldn't be in the place where i am staying right now. i hope i will be able to t...

do you think being able to sort out work stuff might lift some stress? there might be advocates like union reps, hr staff or local groups that can help you with that? I know all the things I can do, and I know what advice I can give others battling the same thing, but I'm struggling to apply these c...

If I hurt myself the immediate stress/pressure will be temporarily reduced how can i best honor the self-protective instinct that has me wanting to self-injure right now? I want to harm myself. I don't know what about self-soothing sorts of things? i would think that colouring in is a soothing and ...

angry.

All I could think of was how i'm a miserable fat failure and i wanted to cut do you see how your thoughts and feelings might have been the cause of that urge? i don't have an ed but some simple ideas with dealing with these feelings might be to read/hear the opinions of other people who are more po...

i was hot and didn't want to have to cover up more to keep cuts hidden.

i do use some, mostly mindfulness practice ones from the app "satify" which are from a couple of different sources. i don't find them that helpful with si urges though because my thoughts derail too quickly, but they are great for anxiety and helping turn off some thoughts to help me get to sleep.

If your opportunties were taken away, how would you feel? if they were ALL gone, I feel like I'd go batsh*t insane. just a random thing, but your answer makes it sound like si is your only way of coping that you really trust, that without si to cope you wouldn't cope at all. is that realistic? if i...

write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself: how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? the situation will change slightly - i will be giving into my self-destructive nature, allowing hopelessness to rule my actions and probably bringing on worse th...

I'll probably still feel like crap emotions suck. i can imagine coming out of ip feels like a scary thing, and that relying on your own skills after ip would feel really out of control. maybe giving yourself permission to feel what you feel might help it ease slightly? i can understand trying to ga...

if you could walk down the hall and talk to someone, cry with someone, what would they be doing/saying that helps? can you recreate any of that for yourself? If I hurt I won't let myself message people ... If I don't hurt I won't let myself message people ... it's ok to have feelings and talk about ...

there's a grey area between a bad week and depressive episode that i have no idea how to communicate. i think i'm ok right now, i'm not going to hurt myself, but i think about it every day. that's over the line into depression, i think, but i feel unsure still, like it's still something i should tak...