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by Butterfly.
Tue Apr 18, 2023 4:51 am
Forum: welcome wagon
Topic: Pm to newbies.
Replies: 2580
Views: 652331

Re: Pm to newbies.

PM sent to je ne sais pas
by Butterfly.
Wed Apr 01, 2020 2:18 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: Coronavirus/COVID-19
Replies: 2
Views: 5103

Re: Coronavirus/COVID-19

Coping with the your emotions, the stress of the situation and being in isolation/lockdown. https://www.who.int/images/default-source/health-topics/coronavirus/risk-communications/general-public/stress/stress.tmb-1920v.jpg?sfvrsn=b8974505_5 We would love to hear what you are doing to help navigate t...
by Butterfly.
Wed Apr 01, 2020 2:16 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: Coronavirus/COVID-19
Replies: 2
Views: 5103

Re: Coronavirus/COVID-19

FAQ (Information taken from the World Health Organisation): Remember we are not health professionals. This is general advice only. Please consult a medical professional for advice specific to your situation. What is the coronavirus/COVID-19? Coronavirus disease (COVID-19) is an infectious disease ca...
by Butterfly.
Wed Apr 01, 2020 2:16 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: Coronavirus/COVID-19
Replies: 2
Views: 5103

Coronavirus/COVID-19

Hi everyone. We all know by now about the COVID-19 pandemic that is sweeping the globe, with devastating consequences. We thought it might help if we had a thread where we can all talk about our experiences with it and talk about all the emotions and everything we are feeling. This is a safe place t...
by Butterfly.
Thu Mar 07, 2019 1:58 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Jem's B&A Thread
Replies: 10
Views: 10180

Re: Jem's B&A Thread

Before You Self-Harm Write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. Look at it. Ask yourself: How will this situation or feeling change if I hurt myself? I always struggle with this question. Mostly because si can never change a situation so much as change me, my feelings, my view of things. ...
by Butterfly.
Wed Dec 26, 2018 12:49 pm
Forum: coping
Topic: Things Left Unsaid v.7
Replies: 53
Views: 35547

Re: Things Left Unsaid v.7

I miss you so much, I miss having you as a part of my life more than anything. But I miss “us” as well. I wish I could turn time backwards and not make that mistake.
by Butterfly.
Wed Nov 21, 2018 2:23 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Jem's B&A Thread
Replies: 10
Views: 10180

Re: Jem's B&A Thread

Questions to Answer After A Slip Slips are chances to learn. You figure out what stresses are still too hard for you and you can work on how you'll deal with them next time you run into them. So instead of beating yourself up, take action. Have you taken care of your physical wounds? If not, go do ...
by Butterfly.
Tue Nov 06, 2018 1:51 am
Forum: before and after
Topic: Jem's B&A Thread
Replies: 10
Views: 10180

Re: Jem's B&A Thread

i'm glad you answered the q's, even if they didn't offer a different solution besides si. i have some questions if that's ok? I was hoping the questions would help me find a different solution. I really wanted to keep up the injury free time. Questions/responses are always welcome :) why do you des...
by Butterfly.
Mon Nov 05, 2018 1:16 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Jem's B&A Thread
Replies: 10
Views: 10180

Re: Jem's B&A Thread

Before You Self-Harm Write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. Look at it. Ask yourself: How will this situation or feeling change if I hurt myself? The situation won’t change. But it will give me a physical outlet for this pain, a physical manifestation, something I can point at. What w...
by Butterfly.
Fri Sep 28, 2018 3:16 am
Forum: welcome wagon
Topic: Pm to newbies.
Replies: 2580
Views: 652331

Re: Pm to newbies.

PMs sent to

Henrywinter
Tijeas
MrsVicar
SixDot
sootandstars
Blayde

:purpstar:
by Butterfly.
Mon Sep 17, 2018 3:31 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Jem's B&A Thread
Replies: 10
Views: 10180

Re: Jem's B&A Thread

Before You Self-Harm Write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. Look at it. Ask yourself: How will this situation or feeling change if I hurt myself? The situation won’t change. The feelings might shift a bit, or at least my attention will be elsewhere for a little while. What will hurtin...
by Butterfly.
Sun Sep 02, 2018 1:57 am
Forum: welcome wagon
Topic: Pm to newbies.
Replies: 2580
Views: 652331

Re: Pm to newbies.

PM sent to Nameless214

:purpstar:
by Butterfly.
Fri Aug 24, 2018 3:17 pm
Forum: welcome wagon
Topic: Pm to newbies.
Replies: 2580
Views: 652331

Re: Pm to newbies.

cause they seem weird regarding the things they wrote under gender (PQ/TF/DQ/XW/VZ/SU...). I still can write them a welcome pm cause they haven't posted any spam yet but wanted to hear other's opinions before. Odd genders are often a flag, so good call not to PM. Garfield is the only one I’m not su...
by Butterfly.
Fri Aug 24, 2018 3:11 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Jem's B&A Thread
Replies: 10
Views: 10180

Re: Jem's B&A Thread

Urges are building up. Being ip is making it hard to manage them. Before You Self-Harm Write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. Look at it. Ask yourself: How will this situation or feeling change if I hurt myself? It will be an outlet. For the overwhelming feelings that are all jumbled u...
by Butterfly.
Fri Aug 24, 2018 2:36 pm
Forum: before and after
Topic: Jem's B&A Thread
Replies: 10
Views: 10180

Jem's B&A Thread

The urges are becoming more frequent. I want to try to avoid returning to regular SI, so I plan to use the Before (& After if necessary) questions to address this.

Replies and gentle challenges welcome.

:purpstar:
by Butterfly.
Wed Aug 08, 2018 6:07 am
Forum: welcome wagon
Topic: Guide to the Welcome Wagon
Replies: 6
Views: 8844

Re: Guide to the Welcome Wagon

Spammers Firstly, have a read of Warning about helping with spam for some tips on keeping yourself safe when coming across spam accounts. How can I tell if someone is a spammer or not? The best way to spot a spammer is to look at the information on their profile, or on the Memberlist. Often spam ac...
by Butterfly.
Wed Aug 08, 2018 6:06 am
Forum: welcome wagon
Topic: Guide to the Welcome Wagon
Replies: 6
Views: 8844

Re: Guide to the Welcome Wagon

1st Threads How can I find newbies' 1st threads? The three main ways to thread hunt are as follows: 1. Many new members introduce themselves in the Introduce Yourself (Please Add On) thread on main. It is a great way to find new members first posts. 2. Visit parts of the forum and see if you can no...
by Butterfly.
Wed Aug 08, 2018 6:06 am
Forum: welcome wagon
Topic: Guide to the Welcome Wagon
Replies: 6
Views: 8844

Re: Guide to the Welcome Wagon

PM'ing new members What you say in your PM is up to you. Some people prefer to use a standard template, some will write a personalised PM every time and others use a mixture of both depending on the time/energy they have. I'll link to a template here. I've sent the PM, now what? Let everyone else k...