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Before You Self-Harm write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself: how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? For a little while I would have relief. It would help me to not feel what I'm feeling for a while. what will hurting myself bring to the si...

Thank you zazie - that sounds a lot more manageable than trying to find one solution to all of it. Also it makes a lot more sense as if I've developed different sorts of SI for different things then it may not be possible to find one alternative for all those triggers. well - at least I have a place...

Kal452 - I'm not entirely sure of the benefits of using olive oil for scarring, but you will be wonderfully soft! Molly - I personally have had no joy with bio-oil or any other form of scar reduction treatment. The rate if improvement doesn't seem any different to if I just let things take their nat...

That does sound familiar certainly. The try harder, try more thing. And it is unpredictable as to whether it will help or not. I think the 'right' and 'wrong' thing is something I do really need to address. I've spoken to my T. about it in passing and she said it sounded very controlling in a way. A...

thanks for reading and commenting zazie. I hadn't noticed that to be honest, so thanks for bringing it to my attention. I don't know why I always assume it will help, even though evidence does suggest otherwise. I'm always surprised when it doesn't, and yet those times are becoming more frequent. Wh...

Before You Self-Harm write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself: how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself? the situation wont change, but the feelings will go for a while. what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away fro...

it really really irritates me that you: :star: NEVER take out the rubbish :star: NEVER put a new bin bag in the bin before putting something revolting in there :star: NEVER clean the bathroom :star: NEVER sweep the kitchen floor, let alone clean it :star: Don't know where the dustpan and brush is ke...

I just found this thread and it's lovely

My friends and I always used to try and do a random act of kindness once a day and I am going to start up again.

Hedgepig

My sad/empty/lonely/angry/isolated/frustrated/tense/frightened feelings would improve if I could let myself tell someone and ask for a hand to hold.

that's brilliant - Well done you!!

It still really hurts me that you weren't there when I needed you most.

i am... cynical, sarcastic, a workaholic, escapist, frightened, avoidant, a complete fraud, a good actress. i am not... able to express how I feel very well i feel... empty i want... to be liked for who I really am i need... to be kinder to myself i have... not totally given up i love... the thought...

Wilco - How to Fight Lonliness How to fight lonliness, Smile all the time, Shine your teeth 'til meaningless, Sharpen them with lies, And whatever's going down, Will follow you around, That's how you fight lonliness, You laugh at every joke, Drag your blanket blindly, Fill your heart with smoke, And...

I am lonely and small and scared, and frightened of my feelings.